On the first day of school there was this boy that i have known but never really, knew. Once I got to know him I developed a crush on him. Then one day i found out that one of my best friends had a crush on him too. Suddenly it became a race. This want any easy race. This girl is perfect. Blonde, smart, pretty, funny, and more that i cant think of or probably type because my vision is getting blurry. After she told me that she liked him too, (but i loved him) we promised that neither one of us would go out wit him even if he asked them. Then, a couple of weeks later he asked her out, not me. All of my other friends knew that I liked him and they told him to ask her anyway. He did it right in front of me. I felt like I had jumped off of a 8 story building and landed on a knife. I burst into tears. Like I am now. But i managed to hide them until i got to the bathroom. And just so you know this wasn't any ordinary crush. I loved him. And I still do today. But I could just kill myself because I know he likes her. And when he asked her she didnt even think about the promise we mad or glance at me to see how I felt about it. She just said "Yay." Thats it. I felt so horrible i could have just shriveled up right there next to the tree. Everyone loves this girl anyways. Why did she have to like the one that I liked--strike that, LOVE? And silly me, I thought that she is sooo picky with boys that she would at least say "let me think about it" but no such luck. "yay", yay, it sounds so wierd so say to someone asking you out, but apparently he liked it. Can I die right now? And if youre reading this and you know that its you im talking about please dont get mad. im just expressing my feelings and dont get freaked out either. just read the rest. I know that he doesnt like me. He treats dog **** better than me. He can be nice sometimes, offering paper to me in reading class everyonce and a while. This girl I'm still friends with her but im so jealous sometimes i wish i could just change my whole life to be just like her so people would like me too. I cant do that though. I just hope that when im gone and theres no one to chase after him hes gonna realize that he loves me too.
2006-10-01 16:25:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but i dont know what to do because anytime i see something about them being together i start to cry and feel bad and guilty a the same time...what do i do?
2006-10-01 16:26:11 · update #1
well....
you have to tell him that u love him if u really do
because it will kill you inside if u dont...
trust me... im in love with this girl, and have been for 2 years... still havnt told her i loved her yet.... its eating up at me inside
trust me
go and tell him
and tell him everything you told us
how it hurts you to think about them together
if he's a semi-decent person... he'll dump her.. and go out with you
(dont raise ur hopes up too high now)
2006-10-01 16:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting right now and it seems like the worst kind of pain. Just know that it will get better, and I can say this from experience. You sound like a very caring person, and one day you will meet the man of your dreams - this guy is simply not the one. Right now, focus on yourself and all your very special qualities. Think about your future, what you want and how to achieve your goals. Study so you can get into a good college. Take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place - just as it should. And one day the right guy will come alone and BAM! Love will hit you so hard that just the sound of his voice sends chills down your back. The funny thing - you will never see it coming. You do something special with your life and when you are a doctor married to a doctor who is crazy about you, living in the greatest house and jetting to Hawaii for the weekend, you can attend your high school reunion in style and feel sorry for your one time friend who is waiting tables so she can support her cheating, lazy husband and her seven kids and wondering where everything went wrong.
2006-10-01 17:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! you are spinning your wheels. That happens alot more than you would think. Typically a person is alot like their circle of friends, thats why they chose them. So its not that uncommon for people that are alot alike, to be interested in the same people. You are just going to run into that. It sounds like your friend is popular, so probably alot of guys like her. Trying to be like her is the worst idea you can try. What will happen is either you wont succeed at being someone else, or worst of all after alot of practice you will, and someone will be in love with you, and not who you really are. You cant pretend forever, and it just wont work out in the end. This is going to sound cold, but try to remember this time, and i promise when you do meet the right person, you will appreciate it alot more. You will be happier with that same person than you would have been otherwise. Just take it easy for a while, and start paying attention to other guys. I am certain there are at least a few more people out there you are attracted to.
2006-10-01 16:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ur right that he's going to realize one day that loves you, too. But it will probably way better if he's the only one who's feeling like that. You should do everything in your power to get over him. Keep in mind that he chose her. and don't have too low self esteem, it's bad for the mind. Just try and have a little patience on when u'll get over him. Don't give up, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. i kno u probly hear that a lot, but that's really true. Try to ignore seeing them when they're together, and don't let her see that it bothers you that they're going out, because, she probly likes making u feel like that. Just try n think about something else when u get these images of them together.
2006-10-01 16:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nina_Nice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell if she was ur best friend she would've thought about ur feelings..she's no best friend..and he asked her out and not you so as long as she's there theres no chance for you..hate to be soo blunt..but thats the truth..dont' cry over this guy..maybe he's cute yes..and u got a crush on him..u probly thnk its love.how can it be love..u guys never been together..its lust..u can't tell..ur gonna feel like this for a long time until u find someone else that u like and he likes u back then u will get over him and move on..happens all the time...but ya that girl is no best friend..and that guy..get over him..find a new one..and if u say u can't then i feel sorry for u cus ur gonna be miserable..theres plenty of guys out there..probly 4 guys at ur school rigt now that likes u but too afraid to talk to u..theres nothing u can do..he chose who he wanted to be with..u gotta move on and live ur life and find someone new. But i dont thnk its love..its lust..a big fat crush.
2006-10-01 16:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew. The good news is over the next few years you will grow out of the melodrama. In the mean time, listen to "As Cool as I Am" by Dar Williams.
2006-10-01 16:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is hard but you shouldn't be friends with this girl any more.. she broke a promise to you .. over a guy and friendship last longer than a guy.. or it should.. there is someone out there for you.. maybe not this year but some day you will find the right guy who treats you like the princess you are..
2006-10-01 16:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by alookylot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..let me guess your either in middle school or high school...well stop feeling like that...yes i know it hurts...and like you have probably hear already...it hurts to see the one you love w/someone else..and i have felt that....and it's horrible...but if you have to cry..CRY. but this guy doesn't seem like a good guy...and you deserve a good guy...and don't rush either...getting a bf...enjoy life while you can..and this girl..she's just a stuck up...don't even pay attention to her....well i hope i helped! Good Luck!
2006-10-01 16:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it and move on, you are wasting your time and energy. theres another boy just around the corner.
2006-10-01 16:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋