Why is it so hard for people to get together? It seams to me that there is more single menand women now than ever before. Men' what holds you back from asking that special girl out? And ladys' What keeps you from saying yes when a guy ask you out? Be honest and no shallow answers please. Not interested in answers like' She doesn't look a certain way or his pecker isn't long enough or he was a little to fat............Get my drift?
2006-10-01 16:06:38 · 23 answers · asked by Sarcastic Sid 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what i was after. Vent everbody.
2006-10-01 16:28:00 · update #1
The reason is our decaying society. People with mental disorders, spooky personalities, our tendency towards violence for no means. Abusive partners (Not just men anymore either), and general weirdos.
All of this leads a person to be frightened in a modern world.
A bad *** attitude with no reason, a I'm invincible and I'll do whatever I want whenever I want lifstyle. Free flowing drugs and peer pressure out the wazoo.
Shallow media telling people what they should look like just to make a couple thousand dollars a month. Stupid hive mentality for believing every word they say.
My point is, the dumb people, which are the majority in America, are too shallow to get together, and the smart people are too afraid. And neither side gets together at all.
2006-10-01 16:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my story is a little complicated and goes like this. . .
My sweetheart passed away. I spent the first 8mos of my son's life single and dedicated solely to my son. When he was 8mos old, I went back to school and spent all my time and effort, working, studying and raising a child. 3.5 years later, I entered a female dominated field (I'm a straight girl). The men I do come in contact with at work are either married or my patients. I don't think a critically ill man is looking for a date, so here I am single.
I'm not really sure why there are so many other people who are single except maybe people are petty.
2006-10-01 23:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm weird like this. I've just left a 3 yr relationship looking hotter than ever, i also have a child so when someone approaches me, i'm more interested in them then what they have to offer in the bedroom or anything really. I suppose it would take a really special guy who knew how to treat from get go for me to actually say yes. First impressions always stick. Looks couldnt bother me more though, my ex was the most shallow person i have met so maybe thats why.
2006-10-01 23:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending upon the couple's logistics,
SOCIETY would have an impact; whether each of the individuals in this couple has a COMMON INTEREST at the time they are together (meet.)
In some regions, FAMILY still has a bearing on how and where each of the individuals conduct their lives.
"I" prefer asking a lady out when THE SETTING is best; not when tensions are high or other matters are of most importance. ALTHOUGH, I did ask a lady out to dinner while we both were on opposing sides of a jury trial. - We discussed the case during lunch and we came to a mutual agreement. (Which I am not privvy to discuss now.)
2006-10-01 23:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy at the dentist office and he was cute and we were just chatting while waiting for the dentist. He was so nice, and we were laughing when the assistant called my name. I explained about meeting this guy and blah blah blah and she told me to go out and give him my phone number and I did. I didn't expect him to call but he did that night!! We talked on the phone for a week or so and he finally asked me out. That was three years ago and now we are getting married and are buying a house. The only reason I would say no to a date if someone else asked me now is because I am already taken! P.S. He in fact does have a small you-know-what, but I do not care at all. We have a fantastic sex life because he is warm and caring and sexy!!
2006-10-01 23:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, there seems to be alot of us out here and we don't always know how to meet people. and sometimes it seems like the one that comes up to talk to you isn't the one that caught your eye, seems a little annoying and won't leave you alone so that you could go talk to someone else without being rude.
it isn't always looks, maybe we notice the way they smile and maybe they have a neat appearance. we don't always or even usually say yes the first time a guy asks us out because we don't know them, we need some time to get to know them. and no that doesn't happen over dinner, certainly doesn't happen at a movie and getting naked, having sex with someone you don't know is just finding out what they look like under their clothes. personality are usually different in bed.
so we resist saying yes, because we would rather find out a little more about someone before spending time alone with them, even in a public place. if he's a nice guy and I like him, it's okay if he's got a couple extra pounds, some gray hair or whatever. it's the need to learn more about the personality that causes the pause. we give out our number or get yours, so that we can talk to you, not plan a date, it's not a game. we want to get to know you better first. we aren't in any hurry to screw up or make a big mistake.
so guys, slow it down just a little and tell something about yourselves and asks us questions about ourselves. you might not get a date but you could get a new friend (and we have girlfriends)
2006-10-01 23:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by gelfin1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I've been waiting for 6 months for this guy to ask me out that I really like and he really likes me but he won't now that I've waited so long I'm not even sure I'd say yes because he's kept me waiting I think that a lot of guys are afraid that they might actually fall in love with the girl and can't handle the pressure, I wish the the boy Tyler would ask me out because at this rate I'm not gonna have a date for prom and I don't ask guys out they ask me. I think that girls say no to toy with guys so that they will feel bad and think that they aren't good enough for us but thats just my opion if you were Tyler, why would you wait?
2006-10-01 23:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by amerine09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well I am usually very picky when it comes to who I am attracted to. I find so much fault in myself that I do the same with men too.
I met a guy online and have been talking to him for a few weeks and he seemed cute in his pics. We met the other night and just hung out and watched TV cause I have my son here. I wasn't worried about him being crazy as he has a little girl as well. Anyways, I found something wrong with him and now I dont know if I want to keep talking to him... I hate that about myself and it is why I am single.
2006-10-01 23:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people now are waiting to be established in a career and support themselves rather than jump into a relationship. They want to have something to offer their potential partner. Women can be more career-oriented nowadays, and will hold off if they view a relationship as potentially holding them back from their goals and dreams.
2006-10-01 23:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok you asked for it so I will tell you. Most men I have met are too fast. If you don't go along with them then they don't call you anymore. If they would quit trying to be so serious in the beginning. They either want you to not date anyone else or they want to get you in the sack.
2006-10-01 23:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋