i have been having troubling dreams about killing and pain, i read horror and such stories all the time. I am depresed and i have seen many people about this, but i never trust them enough to tell them the truth. I wish for death, pain, anything to keep my mind off of the dream that i have day and night. I doesn't matter where i am or what i am doing, even driving, but i can't tell them the truth because i have been hiding it for years and i have learned how to appear to be normal and fine. I stay wake at night to keep away from the dreams, i cry for freadom, but yet i feel that i can't do with out the dreams. Is this just depression or is it something deeper? Please help me!
2006-10-01 16:05:23 · 8 answers · asked by Andy 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ok, I see this very well.
Lets start with your dreams. You need to learn to wake up when you are dreaming. It happens maybe 7 times a night. You are only remembering one of them You have many others each night. But being you remember one of them you are able to take control of your dreams. I do it my self. You need to think about what is real and what is not real. When you notice that something is not real you need to notice you are asleep. I can do this and I can change my dreams. I can not stop the dream but I can change how things are playing out. I can take control. If my dream is about a bear in my window I can in my dream close the window and go get a gun that is not really there and wait for the bear to break in and I can shoot him.
Really you can do this.
You need to think about someone you would like to make love to as you are going to sleep and then have a great wet dream if you like. It takes time to learn to make your dream turn out the way you want them to..
If you can notice you are dreaming when you are dreaming you can wake your self up and write down what is going on in the dream. You will see that not all of your dreams are the same. Remember you have many dreams a night.
My ex is a hottie so I try to dream about her.. It Is a lot better then thinking I am in a building 5 floors above the ground with missing boards and might fall and I can see other people on the ground that can't help me. This dream I have had a few times wakes me by yealling out "HEY!! at the people on the ground which wakes up every one in the house.
Try it..
2006-10-01 16:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is way deeper and you need some help. Maybe you should go to a psychiatrist so he/she can explain what your dreams mean and why they are accruing every night. it could be depression. Did something awful happen to you when you where younger or do you remember an incident that happen to you that makes you dream such awful things? Maybe from reading so much horror books, stories, or even from watching movies are causing you to live that pain only in your dreams. You probably have a wild imagination and I think something you can do that can make you stop those dreams is buy keeping busy bro. Try to keep your self busy to the point where you are to tired. Like work out at the gym. I had something similar only I would wake up scared and I would sweat and tremble of fear for no apparent reason. I would try to remember what I had dream only I wouldn't be able to remember. My parents took me to a psychiatrist and he told me that I had a crazy imagination from to much reading. So he told me to keep busy and since then I have joined sports and when I don't have practice I go and work out at the gym with my bro. I get myself tired to the point where I'm too tired and don't want to think at all. It actually works for me. I think it will work for you if you try to keep busy. Just in case go to a psychiatrist and trust me they help out a lot. Also don't be scared to open up to someone. Learning to trust someone is part of the process because then you can let out your emotions and at the same time you get advice from people. Will I wish you luck and peace out bro!
2006-10-02 00:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me recommend the book 'The Power of Now' by Echart Tolle...get it used, its just as good :)
Second, let me tell you something I've learned over experience and things I've heard and read. What you are experience is called 'the pain body' believe it or not it is part of your ego trying to stay in control of you. Every person has something of an ego, it is the thing that reasons and rationalizes all of the moments of your life and then recalls them as it sees fit.
The pain body is that part of that ego that loves pain, it thrives on it and always wants more, in order for it to 'stay alive'. It's like when we are sad, we want to hear sad music, turn off the lights and think about sad things that have happened to us, etc. You are caught in a viscous cycle right now. I promise you it will pass, all things do.
To help it pass faster though, here is what I recommend: drop the horror and such stories. That may be VERY difficult and you may find that you think you can't live without them, but realize again that those thoughts are not you, they are the pain body. Next, really spend a little time outdoors, get your mind off of indoor things (beta-activities) and put it more on outdoor things (alpha-activities). When you are indoors, a little meditation goes a very long way. Discover who your true self is. The true self is not any thought and it can not be said or written down, only known. (To meditate, clear your mind for as long as you can, when a thought pops into it, and it will, just observe the thought, attach no emotion to it and let it pass. The go back to a clear mind)
I wish you the best of fortune, definitely check out that book and let me know if I can be of any further assistance
2006-10-01 23:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by greenguy415 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everybody has that one person that accepts them as they are- find haven in that person, talk to them. Can't find a person? Get a pet- someone to keep you company. About your dreams- you have got to sleep. Try this- how about setting the alarm for every 2 hrs or something, wake up and then go back to sleep. This will disturb the sleep cycle enuf so that it will not go to REM sleep and therefore no dreamz(dreamz can only happen in REM). Look at life AS freedom- do different things(dancing, singing lessons, hiking), enjoy nature, get the company of people(roommate might not be a bad idea if you live along) and talk to someone at a crisis center or something. Sharing your burden will reduce it- that might be the one thing that frees you.
2006-10-02 00:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bookworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are as sick as our secrets. You have proved that to yourself. Good for you for being able to express your feelings here in your question. Feelings that are kept inside are like a pressure cooker - building up steam - until it feels like it's going to explode. By expressing and releasing those deep feelings to someone else (writing is very helpful, then shared with someone you trust), those pressures will subside and you will feel much much better. Your therapist/s will be able to help you sort things out.
You are possibly a very sensitive person - and watching or reading horror stories or violence can really trouble you. I myself, will never watch anything violent - I don't know how my emotions will deal with that & so do not subject myself to those pictures/experiences
Good luck and G-d bless.
2006-10-01 23:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop reading hte horror stories and get yourself some professional help. Get outside, enjoy the fresh air, make new friends and do stuff you enjoy. Try something new and challenging as well
2006-10-01 23:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Deejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want help? help yourself!
Talk to a counsellor! there might be a simple reason for your depression. and if it is more serious than that, you can be helped!!!
Open up and be honest. Talk to a psychologist or a doctor quickly!
2006-10-01 23:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by toubab 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to figure out what is wrong with you is to open up and be honest.
2006-10-01 23:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋