Well, it's like this... I keep trying to have relationships but they always fail because I'm too scared. I don't know why~If I'm afraid of men, or commitment, or...I just don't know what it is. There is this guy I really would like to keep seeing, but I just can't. It makes me feel like I am drowning inside. Anyone else feeling this way?? If you do, what is it??
2006-10-01 15:56:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can totally relate to your question natalie.......i think that subconsciously i have a fear of failing and its exacerbated by a fear of emotional involvement. its a tough, tough thing to overcome and i think that, for me, i have to patiently find and wait for the perfect person who knows my feelings, and is willing to wait and build a relationship with me. maybe that can work for u too.
2006-10-01 16:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me if your feeling that way don't continue to see him, your instincts are kicking in an telling you something is not quite right. I felt that way more than once an everytime I backed out of the relationship an now I am glad I did !! I found out they were not so nice guys (control freaks) that were mean to there gf's When you meet the guy that you should be in a relationship with you won't have that feeling, you will have a butterfly on top of the world feeling not like your drowning !!!
2006-10-01 23:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by hotmoma9_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
Trust me your not alone,
I am a 27 year old guy that has not "officially had a girlfriend" Every girl that i hang around it ends up doing nowhere, I don't consider myself to be and asshole or bad looking.
your probably afraid of the commitment part of it would be my guess.
Unless you think that something badwould happen with this guy, Just keep talking to him, calling him, do lunch or whatever with him, tell himt hat you like him,
Once you feel really comfortble, in which you will over time.
You won't be scared anymore.
2006-10-01 23:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are "trying" too hard to have a relationship. Let it happen naturally. Getting to know someone, a co-worker, friend of a friend, someone at a club you run into frequentl, etc. Let the relationship come to you. You grow into it. Slowly things will develop before you know it. Just don't "'try" to have a relationship. Find a friend first, then take it from there. Trust me on that one!
2006-10-02 06:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for relationships, you might try and become friends with some one first, before you get into the commitment thing
2006-10-01 22:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I had the same problem myself. Commitment issues. I think it's just that you aren't ready to be tied down. Bring yourself into it slowly. Let him know you have commitment issues. You just want to have fun for now. He'll probably feel the same way.Good luck.
2006-10-01 23:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I use to you are afraid of trusting someone u care abou in the fear of getting hurt and u are afraid of commitment but don't worry. It will all pass in time trust me I went through almost the samething.
2006-10-01 23:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been right where you are. I took a long hiatus from dating and evaluated myself, what I wanted from a relationship, and what I felt I could give. Often times, we try to get someone to fulfill a need that we can only fulfill ourselves.
2006-10-01 23:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by LuvsMochaCoffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you havnt found the right personality match yet the harder you try the harder it is, take it easy you dont have to have sex just to be in a relationship.
2006-10-01 23:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just cant find the right guy....and you just cant get comfortable with that....so i would just tell you to keep looking there will be a guy that can get you unscared...
2006-10-01 23:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋