I want to know how many women would be willing to give thier boyfriend time for himself if he asked for it after an arguement. Do you think its the right thing for you to give him? what do you think he might be doing with the new time he has to himself?
2006-10-01 15:53:13 · 16 answers · asked by johnblaze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not a matter of giving in. I think everyone needs a little time to himself/herself. When you're in a relationship, whether you're just bf and gf or married, you're STILL an INDIVIDUAL. Besides, the more you keep confine him, the more he'll want 'out'.
He could be doing loads of different things, like hanging out with his friends, playing hoops, downloading music or just vegging out... doing absolutely nothing. Your bf has every right in the world, just as you do, to have time away to do whatever he wants, just as long as it doesn't involve being unfaithful to you. That, you're going to have to have an understanding about.
Hope this helps!
:-)
2006-10-01 15:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would give him time to himself if he meant a couple hours, but if he means days or weeks then I don't think so. Everyone needs time to their self once in a while. It's normal it's their time by themself so they can relax and not have to worry about anything. But if he meant days or weeks then that means that he is rethinking the whole reason he is with you and that's not a good thing. If he wants a couple hours to himself let him have it. You have to trust in him abd know that he wouldn't cheat on you. If he wants time to himself then take time out for yourself also. It will be good for both of you and your relationship.
2006-10-01 16:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for myself usually means, I just need some time to think. Especially if it is just after an argument. He could be doing any number of terrible things like, figuring out why he was cumb enough to argue with someone he loves, Talking to his Mother about the argument, or even just cooling off so that it doenst escalate into a worse argument.
2006-10-01 15:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definitely a right thing, sometimes when you are in a relationship and you are so stressed and have so much going on in your life, you may need time by yourself to think stuff over, it doesn't mean they ll be going out with another person (unless hes a bastard) it just means being in a relationship can prevent you form thinking about what you really want, and it can be suffocating, actually i think it is a healthy thing to do for a lot of couples it could even save a relationship!
2006-10-01 16:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by cuteybooty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fair to ask, after you've both cooled off from the argument, how much time he feels he needs (a week, two?). If he says he doesn't know and/or he adds to it that he wants/needs to do things that don't include you....he's trying to end the relationship.
2006-10-01 15:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by LuvsMochaCoffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes give him time.. that out of respect..cooling off period helps a relationship.. you have to trust him in needing time to think what went wrong or how to resolve the issue that caused the fight in the first place.
Be a lady and allow breathing room.. its ok. it might even be hard to feel his pain. just wait when he is ready to talk about it be open enough to listen
2006-10-01 15:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 26 years, I never gave my man time to himself after an argument because I wanted to find out what is bugging him. Years and experience has taught me to let him have time to himself so he can sort things out, and for me to sort things out, when we got back together we had our senses and we could talk and get things straighten out. I am no expert, but when we were kids we had time out..........I still believe it....time out.....get back together.....and talk.....before one or both says things that would hurt the other.
2006-10-01 15:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've never had a girlfriend to have a fight with. But if he asks for time alone after a fight. He might be considering this relationship. Weighing the pros and cons.
2006-10-01 15:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would if i had a man to give it to! lol
yes its the right thing to give him i mean if he wants it, i mean its not that hard to give him im sure i could give him a little time to himself.
and he might watch tv. or go out with the guys. ect.
2006-10-01 15:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah if you dont give him time then he is gonna get more mad and think you dont trust him trust is the key factor in a relationship without trust you have nothing and it is only normal to worry but if he loves you or likes you he wont do nothing wrong
2006-10-01 15:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋