2006-10-01 15:49:22 · 30 answers · asked by ladyluck1998us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
F**K them racists a-holes...
Date whomever you want. You're better off not talking to them with their poisonous idealologies.
2006-10-01 15:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard decision to make. The problem is, this isn't about your family, but about you. You shouldn't have to choose between potential love and your family.
So you're dating a person of a different race. Why does that matter? Does it change you as a person? No.
Your family is being unreasonable and close-minded, not to mention racist. This relationship is not set in stone, so it could last a long time, or a very short time, depending on how well you and the other person work together.
Your family is judging the person without meeting him/her, I'm assuming, which is unfair. That's like saying someone couldn't like Oprah because she's black. The idea is preposterous.
I would talk to my family about this. The issue shouldn't be that serious a consideration. You should tell them your feelings, and how them pressuring you doesn't help what may be an already tough situation. Plus, they are putting conditions on their love, which is not the job of family members. They'll only love you if you date a certain race? That is cold and inconsiderate.
It is your right to date whom you please. You should talk and try to open your family's eyes to the person's good qualities. And ask what race has to do with the ability to love someone, or to be a good person...
If this person means a lot to you, continue to date him/her. But make sure that the family issues get resolved. Bringing the person in to meet everyone is always a good idea if you two start to get serious. It might soften everyone's prejudices.
Good luck!
2006-10-01 22:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by 17unsolvedmysteries 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy in your relationship that you're in and you feel this relationship has a potential future, go for it. You are your own person and you need to do what is best for you. You are the one that needs to be happy. It only sounds like a majority is against you dating outside your realm......so share the happiness with those that are happy for you. You should share that happiness with them, the other don't deserve it. If you already didn't know, we call them racists. It is completely okay to date outside of your race. We are all attracted to different people. It shouldn't matter if the person you dated was blue, red, purple or orange, as long as you're happy, that's all that matters. I was in a situation with an ex-boyfriend. Even though it wasn't about race, it was about different backgrounds and our families had different personalities. The best advice I can give is follow your heart and do what you feel is best.
2006-10-01 23:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Emmie_katz7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is a big chance you will be taking. I am married to someone outside my race and not everyone accepted this. This is what I believe wholeheartedly: You live your life for YOU, not everyone else. By dating someone outside your race is not a crime, and by doing so, who will you be hurting? If part of your family has a problem with this, then you can either live by their rules and be miserable, or stand up and let the them know that you love them, but will not tolerate disrespect. You cant live your life to make everyone happy--you have to think of yourself. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-01 23:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you be the adult you are. Stand up for your desires and learn to live without your family if that is where following your heart takes you. Families have tried to influence their members for ages in this regard.
Remember, you live with your family until you move out. Therefore, your family will have to be cast off to some extent in order for you to move on. You might find someone to live with for the rest of your life whom isn't of your race. Why try to change something they may be your future?
2006-10-01 23:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh..how sad!!!...you are happy with a person and all some people see is a differnce to themselves. I honeslty not sure why some ppl focus on such things. I wonder if the pppl who say they won't talk to you are an older genration and have very strong feelings bout other races?..i guess it would boil down to how YOU feel, and what you are able to deal with. Are you strong enuff to have to fight to prove this person is a good person for you and makes you happy?..that is all that should count...good luck
2006-10-01 22:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you date who ever u want. love crosses all boundaries including race. your family may have a problem but u dont. Don't let your family bring u down, u will see things have a funny way of working out.
2006-10-01 23:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short...enjoy YOUR life and not let them drag you down. FAMILY are suppose to be there no matter what and in time they will accept anyone YOU love. Keep at arms length the ones that don't have an open mind but remember to not to completely cut yourself off.
Good Luck!...
2006-10-01 23:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure of your question. sounds like a statement. retype. the race thing is an ongoing thing and even though it's wrong to be racist. some people have endured alot of racism more than another race and also from one particular race. so your family is just trying to be cautious. may not be right but it's their opinion.
2006-10-01 22:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mixed race dating is at a very all time high right now. There is a reason of steretypes actually burning themselves out.
2006-10-01 22:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you concerned with your family? If you're happy with your guy, that's all that should matter. Share your happiness with the family members who are happy for you. Don't give the others any more attention than they deserve.
2006-10-01 22:55:07 · answer #11 · answered by LuvsMochaCoffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋