If you found out your boyfriend lost his virginity at 15 to a prostitute, but he was disease free, would this piss you off. You see there's the guilt I feel for not bringing it up, but theres the overwhelming fear of being dumped. I grew up in a trailer park next to a brothel so it was kinda hard as a 15 year old boy filled with hormones to say no. I'm wealthy now and have made a 180 turn with my life so please consider this before blasting me with negativity.
2006-10-01 15:44:21 · 25 answers · asked by 571234 6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your explanation is just. If you choose to let it all out in the open then it sounds like you are destined to punish yourself over and over. Quit bashing yourself and move on, it's in the past. Just be a good person and stay away from the brothels if you intend to get serious.
Good Luck...
2006-10-01 15:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually dated someone for a while that lost his virginity that same way. Bothered me when I first heard it but it was a similar situation to yours. The thing is how you present something like that to a woman. If you brag about it like it was some great experience that you can't wait to share with your own son, it will automatically turn her off. However, if you tell it like it was, which was really just your environment coupled with the raging hormones of a 15 year old boy -- it's much more palatable.
2006-10-01 22:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by lucydesi1940 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
islandrock69jam is right! It is all in the past and should have no bearing on the present or the future. You really do not need to tell anyone (not even a future wife) to whom you lost your virginity. It SHOULD be enough for her to know that you are a man who loves her and what you did in the past should not matter at all!
2006-10-01 22:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Why's the rum gone? ☺☮♥ ツ♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom once said "worry is money paid for a debt not owed." this is so a non-issue and a no-worries situation. sounds like this was not "the girl next door" way to get laid, but after all you were 15-years-old. resolve to be OK with this and meet "the girl next door" and she does not need to know about it. if she asks point blank "how did you lose it," tell the truth and she should love you just the same. it really is OK
2006-10-01 22:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by ecutepup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude your past is nobody's business but yours,dont worry about what people think about your past actions, there is nothing you can do to change them.If she cant tell the difference between the curious boy and the man he grew up to be then she isnt worth the time it takes to explain it to her.
2006-10-01 22:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is in the past, there is no way to change what happened, use this information, to become a better person, possibly advise others how it has affected your life. Personally it was along time ago what is the big deal
2006-10-01 22:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like someone, it shouldn't matter. I know that my boyfriend had a very active (sexulay) past. I know he has slept with countless females before me. As long as he isn't with any of them now, I see no problem. Keep that in mind, it was your past, your girlfriend has a past too. I'm sure she is hiding something from you too...
2006-10-01 22:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't judge. A boy at 15 really just follows instincts, they don't know any better. But if my bf would hide it from me for like years, im sure i'd be upset. Not break-up upset tho.
2006-10-01 22:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by BeachGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering it is his past...it shouldnt matter. He was 15 and didnt know any better. We all have our share of skeletons in our closets. As long as he doenst do it anymore...you are fine.
2006-10-01 22:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Clock Watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably not have a problem with it if everything else about you (or at least the majors) were a possotive. I hope everything goes well for you.
2006-10-01 22:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋