I had a casual relationship with a guy for a year and whenever we were together we'd have fun but other times it'd be like total silence, because we'd both be nervous to say anything it seemed like. Now that he's moved away, even though he still wants to keep in touch, I want him to know that I'm not always like that, that we can have fun, epsecially if he's thinking long term someday. Anyway, why didn't we open up as much?
2006-10-01 15:33:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lack of self confidence on both sides is the culprit. Settle down and relax. You don't have to rush...especially since he has moved. You can have fun as well as get to know him better. You can have nice conversations over the phone, or even better, write to each other. Both of you will become more open through your letters.
One caution of concern though, don't expect too much. Don't leave yourself open to become hurt. Your living distance will probably narrow the relationship to that as friends rather than lovers.
The letters can be a joy to receive.
Enjoy!
2006-10-01 15:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like you both had a bad history of relationships and dont want to get hurt or hurt each other. so instead of being yourself you are nervous they will hurt you if you open up. Once you two get hanging out more and end up trusting one another you both will open up more and get over the shyness. if you both care for eachother and want it to get more serious you both will learn that you both are comminted and will slowly adjust and show your true self. give it time, it will happen.
2006-10-01 22:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there could have been some real feelings on both sides. At least for me that seems to be when I sometimes cannot find words to say, because my mind is racing about all the feelings
2006-10-01 22:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by trip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are in denial of your true feelings for each other ... u all need to have long honest talk at some place where you can be for a long time and if it gets intimate then u can go for it...
2006-10-01 22:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because things are still new to a certain poin and neither one of you probally knows exactly how to take each other, so it's probally hard for ya'll to just open up and be at ease with each other.
2006-10-01 22:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by thugangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matbe you were both too nervous to make the "first" move.
2006-10-01 22:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Brad A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seem to me it was just a b.call. when you or he had nothing better to it was fun and now it time to move on.
2006-10-01 22:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by cavarena w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont wanna make a mistaek and ruin the relationship ^_^
2006-10-01 22:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
young and shy maybe..... just give it time ;-) youll figure it out
2006-10-01 22:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋