Ok my child's father and I discussed getting back together bc we both still love each other and our daughter is 15months. He said that right now he is going thru alot and needs to work things out b4 he can focus on a committed relationship with me. At first I thought that was his nice way of saying that he is not interested in a relationship with me. But here lately he has been cooking dinner and bringing it to me every other nite and spending way more time with me and our daughter. Could he really be willing to work things out and finally be a family or is he just being nice to spare my feelings?
2006-10-01 15:32:21 · 16 answers · asked by Teapot23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well.. just see how long the nice-ness lasts! some men can and do change.... and soem men just stay the same old dogs that they are.. best thing to do is just let time tell... dont get your feelings tooo involved because of corse you dont want to get hurt... but just see if he really means what he says and after so long if you guys arent together than you know its probably just not ment to be right now!
2006-10-01 15:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by im just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been separated? Not that any length of time excuses someone bailing out on his child and the Mother of his child; confused or not!! He should have thought about being able to be in "a committed relationship" before he became a father. Before you let him mess your heart and head up any further, you guys need to get into some counselling; for yourselves, but more importantly for that precious daughter of yours. Like the saying goes, "sometimes love isn't enough". I really think he needs to do more than just cook dinner for you every other night. If he hasn't worked out his issues, it won't last. Good luck to you!
2006-10-01 23:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by marona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK… Having just read your previous question, I am now in a better position to understand where you are at…
A few years ago, you hurt your husband, and it is taking him time to get over it.
What you did to hurt him isn’t important…
If you accept that what you did was wrong, and will not allow it to happen again…
it is best left in the past where it belongs !!!
You and your husband have a distinct advantage, in that you have a beautiful 15 month old daughter who you both love very much.
There is no reason why you can’t use the love you feel for your daughter as the building blocks on which to base your love for each other.
I believe you should trust your husband’s feelings toward you and the baby, and be confident of making a success of your marriage.
I do suggest however that you both seek counselling !
I wish you and your family every success !!!
2006-10-01 22:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to have his cake and eat it too. he told you he is not ready for a relationship but yet he is playing the role. at the same time you can't really talk to him about certain issues as if he is your man because he will remind you that you're just his baby mother. tell him if he wants to play the family role then he got to be that. you said he is spending way to much time with his daughter. the man can never spend too much time with his child. i Hope you are not the baby mom who makes a man see his child only if he is with you. that never works. he sounds like a good dad. embrace that. good luck
2006-10-01 22:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is his zodiac sign? His actions will make more sense to me if I knew that. Some men are players by nature and some like to control things. His sign will give some insight on why.
2006-10-01 22:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by kc_cuttie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like he's willing to at least try for your daughters sake, why not give him a chance, doesn't everyone deserve at least one chance, espceially when it comes to a child
2006-10-01 23:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try listening to the words coming out of his mouth,he wants to but needs to work some things out before he does.So let him,but take your time to make sure it's what YOU want.
2006-10-01 22:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man never cooks dinner just to be nice. He never spends time with people "Just to be nice." Sounds like you have yourself a reformed father.
2006-10-01 22:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl sounds like he would like ta work things out but if i was you i would ask him what kinda things does he gotta work out if you want ta give him a second chance and you want a second chance then go for it but dont try just for the child the adults have both gotta want it if not them move on
2006-10-01 22:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's interested. Let him keep doing those things and let him be in control of the situation until you can be sure what his intentions are. Don't sleep with him though. sex muddies up many situations with guys.
2006-10-01 22:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋