Al RELEVANT costs will be covered by us, like the IVF procedures ect. A legal contract will be used to "cover" and to put both parties at ease. We have tried surrogacy twice before, but we lost the babies in the first term, no medical reasons were found for this. I truly believe that we WILL have our own bundle of joy and would like to try again as soon as possible. However it is quite hard to find a surrogate or a surrogate couple with no intentions. NO expenses will be for that of the surrogate! If you think you are a candidate or would like to help please let me know. Thank you & God bless.
2006-10-01 15:22:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Surrogates do it for the money mostly, if you want someone to do it out of love and just a general feeling of wanting to help a fellow human being, you usually have to have a sister do it.
2006-10-01 15:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I don't think this is the right place for you to ask. There are many "kids", and immature people that get on here. If you have tried it twice before where did you get those surrogates from? If you don't know of an agency, then talk to your doctor, they should know a better way.
Also being a surrogate is hard, even though the baby isn't yours, you still become attached.
I would not trust just a random stranger off the streets, and that is what you are asking for.
Don't either of you have a sister, or close friend, that way the person would have some kind of role in the kids life anyway.
2006-10-01 15:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Where are you located? Generally, surrogates are fairly easy to find, especially if you have the cash to back up the contract and if it's your egg (or a donor egg). If you're looking to use the surrogate's egg *and* have her carry it, you'll have more trouble because there is a biological connection along with the trouble of carrying it for nine months.
I've taken care of quite a few surrogate moms who are carrying for lesbian couples, gay male couples, infertile couples, older couples.
To answer your e-mail, I'm don't live near you unfortunately. But I'd be hesitant to refer one of the women I know to you because your insistence that no expenses will be for the surrogate is puzzling and will limit your choices considerably. Most strangers will not give up over a year of their lives purely out of the kindness of their heart. A lot of women work for a living and a high risk IVF pregnancy, especially one bought and paid for that belongs to someone else may make it impossible for her to work. What will she do for income for a year? And for those who don't know surrogacy is not an easy task. It involves giving yourself shots, taking medications, having embryos or blasts implanted (generally more than one creating a risk for multiples). And of course everyone is getting daily or weekly blood draws, this process alone takes about a month plus the pregnancy and labor itself. Also whatever restrictions or requirements the family puts on the surrogate (diet, exercise, weight, etc).
No one "gets rich" being a surrogate but they deserve to be paid for a year of their time and the wear and tear on their body. I'm sure if you think about it you'd want the same if you were in their place, unless of course you were carrying for a good friend or family member.
2006-10-01 16:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I can see where you are coming from with you probably aren't rich people who have money to just give to someone. I have always wanted to be a surrogate mother because I loved being pregnant and would love to help somebody experience the joy of having a baby. I however would not carry a baby for somebody and not even get maternity clothing bought for me. That is ridiculous that you would expect the carrying mother to pay for herself when she is doing you a favor. I'm not saying that you would have to pay for their rent and utility bills but paying for some food expenses and maternity clothing wouldn't cost you too much and really it's the least you could do.
2006-10-01 15:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that someone willing to get pregnant for you and be pregnant for nine months and not to mention how painful childbirth is. (I had a c-section and that is the awfulest pain ever) should get atleast some money out of it.
Look at it this way someone pregnant with someone else's child and then when they give birth they have to hand the baby right over to them don't you think that would/is so hard for the surrogate mom?
Is there not anyone in your family (sister/cousin/friend) willing to do this for you? Have you asked any of them?
Have you thought about adopting? go to http://www.adoption.com
Or maybe you can go to this doctor yourself, maybe he can help you (to get pregnant)
Dr. Richard Levin at http://www.babies-by-levin.com
Look at this website, they do surrogacy and invitro..
He is a very good doctor and worth every penny.
Good luck
2006-10-01 20:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is really not a good idea, going with this on the Internet. Don't you ever watch TV and see how some unscrupulous Person takes advantage of People trying to have a baby? So, be awfully careful and good Luck to you and your Spouse.
2006-10-01 15:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just a question, you are only paying for the bills of the baby and not the surrogates hospital stay and doctor visits? You are not going to pay for the clothes that the person has to buy because they are getting bigger for you? Not being rude just don't know what I V F procedures are. feel free to contact me and we will talk.
2006-10-01 15:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by brunette 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I would be the best candidate but If i were, I'd definitely do it for a couple if they were going to be good parents, etc.
Why not adopt a child, even an older one. Being a true, good parent to a child does not mean they have to be biologically yours. You don't need your own biological child to love a child and raise them and guide them in life.
2006-10-01 15:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by pcgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will cover the relevent costs, like the actual IVF? Well gee, it sure is nice of you to not charge your surrogate for that! Honestly, surrogacy is hard hard work and generally does not pay that well.
You should obviously be using an agency.
And maybe you should consider adoption.
2006-10-01 15:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine 6 · 10⤊ 3⤋
You've got to be kidding me. Don't come on here to look for a surrogate, this is definately Not place to be looking.
Good luck though.
2006-10-01 15:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Venus 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋