I love it when my SO goes down on me, but can never reach orgasm. He seems to view it as a failure even though I enjoyed it immensley. Do you have any tips for either me or him? Anything is helpful!
2006-10-01 15:16:47 · 17 answers · asked by short n sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first of all you have to relax. If you keep worrying about coming while he is doing it you never will. First you also need to get to know your own body. Do you masturbate regularly? You should, and make sure you figure out what you like and what gets you to come. Then, direct your bf on what to do to you, what you like. Too many people assume it is rude to do so, or that the bf will feel inadequate. All women are different, some like strong stimulation, some softer. Have him try pressure, cicular motion, up and down motion, and ever other possible movement on your clitoris. Some like it directly put to the clitoris, some like their labia licked. You will have to figure out for yourself and then guide him along.
Good luck, It took me quite a while too, But I have an awesome boyfriend now and he gave me my first one after others failed.
2006-10-01 15:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having Trouble Orgasming
2016-10-14 02:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick anatomy lesson. At the upper end of the vaginal opening and inside the labia, there is the urethra, and the clitoris. As the clit is stimulated, it becomes erect, like the male penis. There is a hood over the clit and until and unless this hood is pulled back, stimulation is tough to do.
I recommend that the first thing you do, is manually stimulate yourself, locate the clit, and see what it takes to make you have an orgasm.
Then, while your being orally stimulated, TALK to him and direct him so he can concentrate on that one spot that you know makes the world spin for you.
Hey, every ones body is slightly different, all the parts are the same, but you have to figure out what works for you, and pass that on to him. He will thank you for it, you will enjoy it so much more and will build his ego up because he was able to bring you to satisfaction.
2006-10-01 15:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
add other stuff to the oral sex ... eg. have him insert the index finger as far as it will go with the back of his hand on his chin ...curl the finger towards the back and caress the area that feels like the inside of a frissbee...it will blow your mind... for a change flip his palm around and go for the g spot at the front same location.. he can do this while doing oral or not ..
2006-10-01 15:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him try different pressures or different speeds. My husband has to be on the right spot for me to have orgasm. Make sure your guy doesn't feel like he is a failure tell him how good it was.
2006-10-01 15:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to relax, tell him what feels the best, more clitoral stimulation,
have you tried toys, or pleasuring each other at the same time, just experiment with different positions, and toys. just communication and practice is the best answer, if he has the patience and is willing to keep doing it until he gets it right then practice, practice practice
2006-10-01 15:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of books and stuff on that but i can offer u one in partifular........if there is a Spencer's near by go there and they will have a book called....100 ways to great Orgasms.......and its a really good book and very detailed and educational and of course erotic. hope it helps
2006-10-01 15:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, I could have an orgasm from THINKING ABOUT oral sex!
2006-10-01 15:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's a guaranteed way for you to have an orgasm or 2......Spend the night with me.
you know makes sense
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2006-10-01 15:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you feel like you are getting close to the big O , if so, Have him insert a finger in your rectum right when it feels it might happen, you need to tell him when,,, AND it works every time !!!!!!!!
2006-10-01 15:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by john l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋