I have only several months to live--cancer--and have not told my family. I am not old, I've never smoked and drank socially, my family thinks I am healthy because I've lost some weight. My cancer symptoms are not noticable, so I went along with them and led to believe that I am healthy. But now I am ready--I think--to tell them the truth, how would you go about, what would you do? P.S. I personally have come to terms with my fate.
2006-10-01 15:15:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry to hear that, but you should gather all of them together and have that talk, but let them know as soon as possible. I didn't find out my father had cancer till 13 years later , and I wish i would of knew sooner.Good luck, I hope the doctors come up with something to help cure you and everyone else. God bless
2006-10-01 15:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by jaylee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a luxury for yourself I think I would invite the family over. Have your comfortable chair face them and hold notes in your hand. Right now you're ok, but when you go to say the words to them, it is hard.
You are giving them the gift of being able to say good-bye to you.
Now is when you learn to accept kindness from others. It goes against the pride, I know, but I also know that this is another gift you give them....of acceptance.
Dear, you state that you are not old. Do seek a second opionion. Look into nutitional support. I'm not saying we'll live forever, but proper medical care is crucial. Make sure you have explored all of your options.
God bless you and keep you and yours.
2006-10-01 15:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you. Invite them over to your house for a cookout or something and tell them then. They have the right to know about it. You need to tell them so that they can spend as much time with you as possible. You owe it to yourself and to them to let them know what is going on. You don't want to miss out on a second of your life. Live it to the fuulest while you can. Now is the time to do all of the things that you have wanted to do before but never got the chance. Make the best of your life. I wish you all of the best. You will be in my thoughts.
2006-10-01 15:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will start with a smile "Hey everyone, now is the time to say goodbye to all of you, I have cancer and left only a few months to live.....blah blah blah......." I hope that helps. Actually I'm kinda speechless and choking now. See you in heaven dude!
2006-10-01 18:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Rollercoaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh! i'm really sorry to hear that....my prayer is with you....you are right you must get yourself ready first above all things....try to keep your cool...in prayers.....they will eventually get surprised but you gotta tell them before it kills you.....it won't be so much pain to handle when you\re gone....you know the agony of the ones who has left alive by their beloved who has passed away? i mean it's really hard that you would wanted to die also....so prepare them...and again i'll pray for you that God will give you more strength and possibly a miracle!....you can first tell it to the one who you think is the strongest...it could be to your mom first or to your dad...whoever the strongest is.....one by one until everybody knew it.....don't do it in a gathering or when there is an occassion that everybody would know.....again ONE by ONE until eventually eveyone will know it.
2006-10-01 15:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋