i need help! my boyfriend is in bootcamp and i love him more than life it's self!!! but lately i've been hanging out with one of my guy friends... and i've started having REALLY strong feelings for him.... and he just told me that he loves me and can't stop thinking of me... and he does know about my boyfriend... he's a reallly good guy... my friend... but i don't know what to do about it all... my head and my heart are fighting!! someone help!
2006-10-01 15:13:36 · 15 answers · asked by country_fire_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
either tell your friend to go away and stay away, or have him hang around and tempt you till you cant take it no more. if you loved your boyfriend more than life itself, you wouldnt be posting this crap. your man is going thru the hardest thing in his life and you are already fukcing around. you know what, dump your boyfriend cuz if you dont you'll just be another cheating military wife. if you cant get thru basic, you wont get thru all the other crap the military is gonna throw your way.
2006-10-01 15:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason you may be having feelings for this guy is because you miss your boyfriend, so any guy that pays attention to you your gonna start having feeling for, trust me I've been there. If this guy is such a good guy he wouldn't be telling you that he loves you, knowing you have a boyfriend already, he knows you are vulnerable right now. another way to look at it is to reverse the roles, how would you feel if your boyfriend did the same to you, if he was at bootcamp and met someone and started having feelings for them while you were anxiously waiting for his return but his heart wasn't with you. I would stay away from your friend for a while until you can get your feelings in order, and think with your heart again.
2006-10-01 22:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nadea K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the trouble with absence. Sometimes it doesn't make the heart grow fonder...
You've got a couple of choices. Cheat for the fun of it. Break ties with the man in boot camp and go for the new guy. Tell the new guy "no go" and stay faithful with the boot camp guy. Or, just bail on both and start something new with someone else.
That's about all you have to worry about. But, you need to consider if the new "feelings" are not just a matter of lust and less of love.
Your options are clear. You need to take a little time to yourself and make a choice. I think it might get down to whom you actually love vs. lust for. Hearts can be fooled for a little while. Therefore, take a week (or 2) to be alone and see what you think about each of the guys after that.
2006-10-01 22:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there's always this thing called temptation....do this in a "first come first serve basis" thing.....give wht is due to the situation.....give your boyfriend his chance to prove his worth...since he came in first . Now true love really waits........if that guy you are hanging around with truly loves you....he woul be gentleman enough to let go of you for a while because if you two are meant for each other.....God will make a way for you to cross again where no one's gonna be hurt. It is obviously not God's will 'coz you're going to hurt someone....keep your cool.....and as much as possible keep it to yourself. Wait until fate has made it's way to end your relationship with your boyfriend...again it's a black and white thing don't confuse yourself.
2006-10-01 23:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. how long have you been with your boyfriend?
2. how much do you really love him?
3. Are you willing to cause him that much pain to experiment with another relationship with a guy you probably don't know half as well...?
hang out with the guy get to know him but be careful...you may find out that after getting to know him you might not like him as much as you think you do and then you might loose soemthing that really matters...my boyfriend is a marine... it's hard but he's worth the wait...think about it...
2006-10-01 22:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to think about which one you want and which is the best for you but if you decide on your Friend you must tell your boyfriend first before you do any thing with the new one as it will save a lot of fighting and hassles believe me i have been there before it can get ugly.
2006-10-01 22:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear this story from alot of gorls, they go with the guy that is there and do not wait for there boyfriend to come back from bootcamp, all of them soon regret it. You must wait on him, it will be worth it. Do not screw it up and than you will regret it. Please just wait.
2006-10-01 22:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by stephen 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time to figure it out. Don't rush into a decision and talk to your friend who knows about both of you. He should have respect for your feelings and the guy who he may be cheating behind his back.
Don't rush things, neither of them may be "the one" so take time to figure out who is better for you.
2006-10-01 22:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by llbm3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you love him more than life itself, as you said, you better stick with your guy at bootcamp, did that help?
2006-10-01 22:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dosnt love you, he wants to get your pants off, and as far as i can tell, he's doin a good job. if you are not in a relationship with a guy and he says that... ya... he wants a party in your pants
2006-10-01 22:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋