should i stay with my bf?

Question

alright here is the deal
me and my bf has been going out for 2 months going on 3
and i think i love him, scratch that i do love him....
but ever since he got a job i NEVER see him anymore
and he never calls me anymore, nd if he does its only for about 10 mins... he goes to a different school than me, i live in arlington and he lives in irving.....so thats hard already, its been 3 weeks since i have seen him going on 4 weeks, and there is this guy at my school who likes me nd hes nice nd all but i love my bf...what should i do? have any ?s bout my bf then email me.....plus its hard to find a guy that my parents love.....

Answer 1

i think you dont really love your boyfriend
cause if you do you would not be facing this dilemma
right now you are being irrational
long distance relationships could work but you feel you are being neglected, and as of now you are not that in love to stay.
for the mean time this other guy at your school likes you and he is nice,,,but if i may say so you dont really like this guy to., you are just craving for attention right now
go talk to your boyfriend on the phone, or go to him personally tell him you feel you are being neglected and because of that you think you might be considering someone else, tell him, ask him if he still loves you, if you want to solve this problem, he must first know that there is a problem, you should not go on deciding alone, tell him is this relationship worth a try and if he is willing to make it work,decide together with him
if you yourself beleive it is no longer working, then let him go, about your parents, they are not you. decide for your own good and what makes you happy

Answer 2

I think the first thing you need to do is talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you are concerned for your relationship. That you understand that he has a new job and that he may be tired but that you do not feel that he cares about you like he once did. Maybe he is just not ready to be in a relationship anymore. Now if you are not happy with the way things are going and it doesn't seem like things are going to change then it is time to move on. It will be hard to get over someone that you love but you will see that the feeling will fade especially if you find someone that makes you feel so much better and happier. Basically don't wast your time with someone you are unhappy with because you might be letting your next great love pass you by.

Answer 3

Out of less than 3 months, you haven't seen this guy for almost 1/3 of the time - the most recent part.

Talk to him about the two of you seeing other people for the time being until such time that you have the time to be able to spend together. Either that or sit happily at home alone and continue waiting.

If you opt to go out with other boys, then that would be cheating - IF you are actually still in a relationship with your current boyfriend.

Answer 4

First indication that you should not stay with your boyfriend is the mere fact that you are asking the question...you most likely have already decided whether or not to leave and need support in commiting to that realization. From what you have described about the relationship dynamics, either one or both of you have already began the emotional disconnect that preceeds the official break up...if you don't want to make a decision, wait it out and your delima will eventually resolve itself, accordingly. Whatever the outcome just believe that all things come to an end and it's what we keep and take away from the experience that matters.

Positively, di

Answer 5

You're too young to be in love. He's not treating you like the love of his life. I'm glad you are worried what your parents think. They have your best interests at heart. However, because you are so young, this is a less a worry then you think. You should be having fun, making good grades and worry about what you are going to wear to school, not worrying about your boyfriend who won't call you.. It sounds like he's moving on, so should you. I'm sorry to say that, i know it hurts but you need to strong. He's not interested anymore... even if he says he is... he would be running home after work to call you the second he got home and can't wait to make plans with you on the weekend when he isn't working. You want a guy like that.

Answer 6

Girl, you are to young, don't just wait for this other guy if it has been 3 or 4 wks then I would start looking some where else for a bf. I could be wrong but I think this is the road you need to go down. And as for your parents no parent will like who their daughter is dating that is just reality that it is that way.

Answer 7

Sweetie, it sounds like you are young. So don't worry about staying with him. Enjoy someone you can be close to and your parents like too
You may make it easier on you and your guy to call it off and possibly stay long distance friends. Enjoy your life, enjoy dating. The only reason I believe people date when they are younger is to find what you like, what you can put up with and what you really want out of a relationship. Every one you fall in love with will not be the one, but will be the ones that teach you the most about the "love of your life".

Answer 8

I hate to tell you this but he is probably seeing someone else. If someone really loves you they will make time for you. I've seen it too many times. Give the new guy a chance. At least he's there. Long distance relationships rarely work.

Answer 9

You should talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know that you cant be in a relationship like that. Even though you love him you'll cause yourself more pain than its worth if you dont do something about it. If he isn't willing to change anything then you gotta let him go... Its hard but in the end its the right thing

Answer 10

Ok, first off, ur bf isn't that into u, if he were, he would be seeing u more often. If there's a boy @ ur school who likes u, start hanging out, & see what happens, u might start liking him too.