I have a niece who has 4 kids & never wants to contribute food or anything else at our family gatherings. Her mom is my sister and maybe she feels since her mom brings in a dish each time, this lets her off the hook. Personally I feel when u have 4 mouths to feed not counting your own, you shouldn't have to be told to bring anything. It should come natural.
2006-10-01 14:43:57 · 12 answers · asked by Boo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to her mother about it. that way you wouldnt have to feel rude by telling her directly. her mother could bring it up while talking to her and casual say, ' you know maybe you should start bringing some food to family gatherings'
2006-10-01 14:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by sarah m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do. The next time you have a family gathering ask her where her food is at and if she can't come up with anything let the children eat and then the time after that if she doesn't have anything let three kids eat and so forth if she still can't come up with anything else the b**** won't have nothing for herself nor her kids. If she has a problem with it tell her to stay her butt home.
2006-10-01 14:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by ArDene'e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that what families are for? To help each other? Sounds like the neice has her hands full. Ask her the next time at the gatherings, 'Susie, the next time we have a gathering, would you mind bringing some drinks? We never seem to have enough and I would appreciate it.'
2006-10-01 14:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you invite her, simply say something like, "Oh by the way, we're putting you in charge of bringing the potato salad. See you then!" (I know it should come naturally to know to bring something, but some people need to have manners repeatedly knocked into them. They just don't get it on their own.) If she doesn't bring anything, then once she's there put her in charge of washing the dishes.
2006-10-01 14:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you have a family gathering, just tell her in front of everyone "You're in charge of the chips (or desserts, or whatever)".
That way, she pretty much HAS to bring something.
2006-10-01 14:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by ashcatash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that next time she is invited, you should just tell her politely that she should bring the potato salad or whatever. Some people lack common manners and need to be told.
2006-10-01 14:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People eventually learn one way or the other, that the world does not owe anyone a living!!! Better to make your own living. You maintain self esteem: a very important igredient of happiness!
2006-10-01 14:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming she lives by herself, tell her that she needs to bring something too since she isn't in the same house as her mother anymore. Basically, it's always per household, not mother/daughter.
2006-10-01 14:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to cook she can at least offer to bring drinks, cups, plates, napkins.......
I don't even try to cook for my family's dinners because my cooking can't even begin to compare with that of my grandma's & aunts so I always offer to bring drinks, chips... whatever they need me to bring.
2006-10-01 14:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE SHE CANT AFORD TO BRING ANYTHING SHE DOES HAVE 4 KID PLUS HERSELF TO FEED THAT COST A LOT SHE MIGHT NOT HAVE THE EXTRA MONEY FOR THAT. AND HER MOM MIGHT HAVE TOLD HER THAT IT IS OK
2006-10-01 14:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋