I am a cashier at a huge store and there is a boy that I like who is a cashier as well.I really like him, he reminds me of my ex-boyfriend so much who I miss ridiculously, and to top it off I met my ex in this same type of store which I transferred from to this one 4 mos. ago. He is so sweet to me all the time, he always goes out of his way to speak to me even though I try and avoid him because when I see him I smile like a kid in a freakin candy store, and I am so very shy around him. The Problem: The store I transferred from had a boy that I liked there as well, and who I thought liked me, but when I made the first move....giving him my number to call me, the next day I come in to work all of the people in my area had gotten wind of it and were making fun of me...and even the boy had nothing to say to me and he never spoke to me again. That really hurt me and shook my confidence...so I was wondering should I let this new guy at my new store know how I feel, or should I keep quiet?
2006-10-01 14:43:56 · 12 answers · asked by sosogogo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like rebound... and if he reminds you of your X, remember there is a reason he was your X, do you want another replacement for what could just be a future X? Regarding inter-workplace dating, that can be tricky since you work in close proximity. In the perfect world, it could be a dream come true in reality- there probably will be alot of drama and complications...
Sounds like u find/attract guys that are closest to you. Try looking outside of the box, it sucks to start a relationship with so many issues at start.
hope that helps ;-)
2006-10-01 14:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by nick_in_miami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna say if u like him then u should ask him out, but u said he reminds u of ur ex who u miss ridiculously. See the problem with that sweetie is u still have attected feelings to ur ex and it's not time for u to date a guy who reminds u of u ex who u miss that much.
Because it would be as if ur ONLY dating him because he reminds u of ur ex( and he's u EX for a reason Im sure)
it would be like dating someone who looks, acts and sounds like aa husband who has died,
Ur so caught up in the fact that he reminds u of him because u miss he so much and haven;t let go, that u start to call him his name or say things to him as if ur talking to ur ex or late husband.
Maybe u should work at a another store altogether sweetie, U have too many guys u either dated or like, or maybe u should date guys outside the store, I mean u don't want a rep do u
2006-10-01 14:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a cashier also and I also had a crush on a guy at work,who is also a cashier..weird, huh? anyway, I made the mistake of telling too many people of my crush and someone found out that he is gay( I hope this doesn't happen to you, but most likely it won't) so don't tell anybody at work and let him make the first move...although we are friends now, it could have been alot better if I hadn't told..
2006-10-01 14:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by confusedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him make the first move!!! Try to let him know you like him without actually telling him. Flirting with him and such. This way if he likes you and doesn't have a girlfriend he'll probably ask you out. But after your last experience if you don't want to get hurt again. I wouldn't take the chance. I wish you the best and I hope he asks you out!!! If not you sound really nice so it's his loss. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. Always remember that!!
2006-10-01 14:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Maryanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to make a move. If you make the first move, he'll think you're desperate. Give it time so that the pieces fall into place. He might just be shy or maybe he's feeling you out. He might be trying to see what type of a girl you are. Just give it time and you'll see whether dating is an intention of his.
2006-10-01 14:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you sorry about what happend at your old job thats to bad.
I think you shouldn't make a move just yet. Let him go first, and if he doesn't then he's not worth your time. You can leave little hints though just to let him know that your interested. But don't make the first move let him do that.
2006-10-01 14:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you should have learned by now is this: workplace relationships are a no-no! If you like the boy, change jobs first, then ask him out. That way, if he rejects you, you don't have to publicly deal with it, and if he accepts, you don't have to endure all the gossip.
Seriously, never date anybody you work with.
2006-10-01 14:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Smiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not one who is big on work related relationships. either things will go wrong, and you're going to have to see them all the time at work and have that uncomfortable feeling. or rumors will get started. my advice would be to find someone outside of work, that way not only do you both have seperate jobs, you have away time from eachother, too. which is great in a relationship...believe me!!!
2006-10-01 14:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by aj.0603 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the problem is that he reminds you of an ex.
2006-10-01 14:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep quiet... low profile.... if you like him that much then you should tell him or if he really likes you he will tell you..
2006-10-01 14:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋