Yes I know this makes me seem like a total *****, but I just can't pretend to like this guy any more. I care for him but I just don't like him the way he likes me. We have been together for about three weeks now and he seems to take it real serious. I want to stop it ASAP but I don't know how. I really don't want him to hurt as bad as he might if I do it too harsh. Ok he has an ex that is really in love with him so she thought she could make him jealous by going out with his best friend and it didn't work he’s to caught up on me and his friend and him still talk. She is really bitchy about it all, it doesn't scare me but it's to much. He is too immature and we have nothing in common, please help me on how to get rid of him for good with out hurting him too bad
2006-10-01 14:37:00 · 12 answers · asked by I <3 Leone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to be direct and let him know that you're not in the same place he is and you think it would be best to end the relationship. Just be honest, firm and direct. Don't leave the issue up for debate. If you want to end the relationship, then end it.
You can go with the standard excuses "It's not you it's me...", "You're a great guy but...", "It just won't workout...", "it's best that we just remain friends..."
He's going to hurt..that's the bottom line. But you just have to be honest. Best he takes the hurt now, than later when he's more emotionally invested in the relationship.
If you still want him as a friend then extend that to him as well. Speak from your heart cause that's where he'll be listening from.
2006-10-01 14:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. Don't be mean or rude just sit down with him and let him know. The truth is always the best way. Explain everything to him just like you did on here. Its only been 3 weeks so it shouldn't hurt him that bad. But still be nice about it. And tell him how sorry you are it just doesn't feel right to you and you don't want to lead him on any longer. Good luck
2006-10-01 14:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by mommyof2_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, but get him aside, and do it in a quiet, friendly way. Just say that you think that he is a decent person, but you don't have the feelings for him that a girlfriend should have, and you want to be honest and tell him before things get any deeper, so as not to hurt his feelings.
That is the best that you can do, he takes it how he takes it. I have been dropped mega harder than that.
That is not being a b****, just being real.
2006-10-01 14:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone really likes you, there is now way for you to not hurt them. i'm thinking that he doesn't really like you as much as he puts on, i think it's all a show for his ex. just tell him how you feel. he's going to be hurt no matter what.
2006-10-01 14:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want to be a freind and no more. There really is no good way. Tell him your schooling comes first, you can't make it you have a flat tire, you ran out of gas, you got lost, your really gay, you have a peepie !
2006-10-01 14:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever way you make you still hurt him, but the best thing to do is to talk to him and tell him how's your feeling....
2006-10-01 14:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to let him down gently, it's really going to be hard no matter how you do it. but do it face to face, because that will help in the long run.
2006-10-01 14:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by R-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to hurt him, TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!!
Be honest with him and move on.
2006-10-01 14:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Elise Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it is not working out and how you feel.... tell him the sooner the better.... good luck
2006-10-01 14:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM THAT YOUR NOT THE RIGHT GIRL FOR HIM AND ALSO THAT YOUR HART IS NOT IN IT THE WAY HIS IS AND THAT YOU ARE WAY TO DIFFERENT AND YOU JUST WANNA BE FRIENDS
2006-10-01 14:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋