I'm a 24 year old virgin, and I just got engaged to my longtime boyfriend (also virgin). I was wondering what I should do for sex. The farthest my boyfriend and I have ever gone is making out, not even naughty touching, or seeing the other naked. Neither of us have ever mastur bated, either. Any tips, I'm really nervous!! I don't like being unprepared.
FYI: I plan on going on the pill before the wedding, so condoms and crap are no worries...
Also I'm unconfortable with going out to buying books and stuff...
2006-10-01 13:57:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
do you think your grandma had books or the internet to teach her. I am 37 years old and I did not use books. Do not take this the wrong way, but if you have all this fear about sex for the first time, then you are not ready ok....
and for the both of you to have never masturbated...... that should be in the ginius book of world records.....
I want to know. did you both grow up in a very stright religious home.. were you home schooled? I would ask if you were amish or something. but if you were you would not be on the internet.
before you have sex and feel comfortable with it..... you need to masturbate....
hey your online, so do a search on tips for a virgion loosing her virginity.. Good Luck
2006-10-01 14:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I'll assume you know the basics (tab A into slot B), so past that it's up to the two of you. You'll almost assuredly be very nervous when the time comes, and that's OK. (I sure was). Don't think you're weird of different or there's something wrong if things don't work out for the two of you the first time. Take things slowly and take things one step at a time. Discover each others body, and then discover how the two of you move together, and fit together. Remember, you're a virgin, so the first time might be a bit painful when your hymen breaks. There might even be a little blood because of it. This is all completely normal. Sex might not be much fun the first time or two, but as with all things worth while it takes practice to get better. Discover your own sexuality too. as you learn each other, learn what feels good to you, and show him. Then ask him to do the same with you. You might have a very loving, intimate, warm, conversation before you wed and decide if any particular activity is uncomfortable to you, and is therefore off limits. (oral, anal, whatever) so you don't spoil the moment with a suprise "stop that!"
Also I would make sure you're on the pill well before the big day comes to make sure you're in the routine, and it's all working well for you. Theres more than one strength and type of those things, and a doctor might have to adjust your perscription. You don't want to be caught with a pill that doesnt work.
Lastly I would like to say congradulations on your pending wedding. You'll find out you did the right thing, and your lives should be filled with happiness.
Good for the both of you, and God bless
2006-10-01 15:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will try to give you some good advice but my mind is boggled by the fact that you are 24 years old and have not even masturbated or touched each other in a sexual way.
If you are uncomfortable buying books about sex at 24, that is also pretty limiting. What has held the two of you back all these years?
It seems you may need some loosening up since both of you are nervous and uncomfortable with sex. Maybe a nice bottle of wine, some candlelight, a lot of privacy and a big nice hotel room, room service and a big soft bed will do the trick. There is really no way anyone else can give you instructions other than to say take things slow and take your time. Touch each other wherever you want, for however long you want, in any way you want.
I still can't believe people make it this long without even touching and strong desire for each other.
2006-10-05 13:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your age is a concern. Are you sure that you're ready for this? Also, depending on where you live there may be issues of legality. and even more so if he is significantly older. I would advise that you think about these things. I'm not going to deny you advice because I can't stop you from going through with this. Therefore I'd rather you were somewhat armed with information if you're determined to do it anyway. The most important thing is to use protection. You don't want to become pregnant and you don't want to get any sexually transmitted diseases, particularly as your intended partner has a varied sexual history. Don't compromise on this. He either wears a condom or it doesn't happen! It's important that you take things slow because it may be uncomfortable the first time. You need to make sure that it happens in a relaxed setting where you won't be interrupted, so that your nerves are minimised. It is important that that there is foreplay, so that you become sufficiently excited (and hence sufficiently lubricated) for penetration to work. With regards to positions, you may find it easier to be on top so that you are in control of the pace and the depth of penetration.
2016-03-27 01:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and dont worry about it. Have fun. Since it will be new to both of you then you wont be the only one nervous. I would give you some good advice but you cant ask that kind of stuff on a public question site because children read these things too.
2006-10-01 16:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank god 4 the internet girl u dont really need 2 go shopping, well unless u need some 'toys' 2nite, anyways 4 the first time once the 'shaft' fits the 'crank' and u both like it the rest will follow, Later on u'll learn new techniques and styles to spice it up alittle.
2006-10-01 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by babybounce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i am no stranger to that department but i am also not a professional but from my experience guys like a lot things that have to be done to them like oral ( so I've heard) LOL, and massages in "special areas" also do some fun things before just jumping there. Talk for a little while get things heated, ask him to go out and buy a Zane book they're a good turn on. Make sure not to take to long in the bathroom getting ready because that's a real turn off and men don't like to wait that long. You can also make it interesting by using some KY strengthening up those "special muscles" of his could be your reward.
2006-10-01 15:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by ArDene'e 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well
Love making comes from the desire of ones heart, No one can tell you how to enjoy your mate.. The vibes of opening your heart and mind sharing something that know one else had that's a blessing in its self,.. You have a life time to study ones needs allow your heart to take over and enjoy the moments..
I can tell you to be freaky but you let your hair down on how you want to express your love the rest will follow suit, you can't plan sealing gods love,
Enjoy your husband knowing your his and he's yours and NO one has had that special nite of Unconditional love and its REAL..
2006-10-01 14:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since both of you are virgins(congrats) you have nothing to be afraid of, you both need to experiment with eachother and find out what you both like...i say just go with the flow but communication is key and remember your first time is not going to go as expected but as time goes on you'll enjoy sex a whole lot more...go pick up a kama sutra book from your local sex shop for some wild positions and if your to embarassed to buy then just go to google or yahoo and type in kama sutra.....have fun
2006-10-01 14:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, don't listen to what others are saying about not being ready. You are nervous---and that is ok. There are many people that "give it away" like tossing out tissue. You have morals--and don't let anyone make you feel bad for that. This is am important step in your life...and you waited for it. Congrats. As far as what to do, let it just happen, let your body, emotions and passion guide you.
2006-10-01 14:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by crazymom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋