i have been dating this guy for over a year and i gave this kid everything but my virginity but thats all he talks about is sex like its going to change my mind or something im 15 and i dont want to take the chance of ruining my life and i have told him i want to stay a virgin til i believe i am old enough to take on the responsiblitly of anything that might happen and he respected that at first but now all he talks about is sex like it is going to change my mind what do i do i love him but i dont like being in this situation
2006-10-01 13:55:29 · 26 answers · asked by dumb_blonde1209 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in this situation, it doesnt matter how much you love him, it matters how much he loves you!!
if he loves you, he wont pressure you, and he WILL respect you decision without bugging you about it.
If he doesnt love and respect you enough, get rid of him. Dont be miserable over him, find someone that will respect you. i know you love him, and its impressive that you've been together this long at your age, but you are young, and shouldnt have to deal with the pressure of sex and its consequences. and you're very smart for staying strong! Good for you!! you deserve better then a guy that treats you like that
2006-10-01 14:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by MRose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love this jerk. You know that. He's just managed to convince you that you are nothing without him. Isn't that nice. You are 15 and he is how old? You don't like being in the situation so get out. You have a parent? Are they not aware that your b.f. since age 14 is a creep?
But congratulations on knowing all that and making the right decision - I am sure you will.
2006-10-01 21:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless you feel like it... Think that if you don't think it's a good idea to have sex with him it's because he may not be Mr. Right Guy. Plus, you are very young. Tell him that you want to experience everything with him, but at it's right moment, and right now it ain't the right moment for sex. It's the right moment for movies, ice cream, popcorn, walks in the park, but NOT FOR SEX. If he loves you, he'll understand and he will wait for the right moment, to make it special enough to be worth remembering with a smile and not regret. If he doesn't understand... i think you'd better look for a better option. Good luck!
2006-10-01 21:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good for you for sticking to your decision. Secondly, tell him how you feel. I mean really tell him, are you an object for him to be able to have sex with or are you someone he wants to keep around for emotional reasons like love. Honestly if he cannot answer you, maybe you guys need some time apart. You see, it's not about the time you have invested with him, you're still so young, think about it
2006-10-01 20:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by whackiejackies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state the age of the guy you're seeing, But I'm assuming that he is young also. I'm proud of you for wanting to save yourself for marriage. A boy that doesn't respect your feelings and thoughts is not someone that you want to spend too much time with. Good luck, hon
2006-10-01 21:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by lifeisgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his hormones are out o control a guy thing.. its all mental pressure for u to give in ... but dont... u said that u gave him everything but that so he should be happier than most guys his age ..assuming that he is close to your age....you have the right attitude to sex and its sad there arent more young ladies like you... do not give in ...stay focussed and if he continues to pressure you then let him go ..he obviously dont respect your standards... stay strong
2006-10-01 21:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On behalf of my gender I apologize. Teenage guys, well all guys actually are pretty one-tracked when it comes to that. If you really love him I feel doubly sorry for you. If I were you I'd explain that either he knock off the pressure or you're going to dump him. If he loves you then he will keep his libido in check. If he doesn't then you just saved a few years of heartache.
2006-10-01 21:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good going girl! It is such a blessing for me to hear of a girl who hasnt given it up to a man she wasnt married to. Tell this guy "I'm not like the girl who gives it all away" and make it clear that if he crosses your boundaries, you will end this relationship. Good luck sweetie
And God bless
I greatly respect your decision of abstinience
2006-10-01 20:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by East 12th Street 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's forgotten how to respect you, and he needs to relearn fast. tell him that no matter how much he talks about it, it's not going to change your mind, and if he can't respect you then maybe he doesn't deserve you. maybe he should start thinking about you more than he thinks about the idea of sex. it sounds like you've really got some good ideas about life going on and don't let this guy ruin it for you!! good for you!!!!
2006-10-01 20:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then he will wait until you are ready and you are a smart 15 year old. I should have thought about that when I was your age. Keep it up and don't give in if he keeps pressuring you then let it go he don't want you for you he wants whats in your pants
2006-10-01 21:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋