okay like my boyfriend and i are really close and i love him so much i trust him with my life but the thing is weve only kissed in the whole year and three months ive been with him well he wants to go farther and he wants to have sex me and i want to have sex with him too but im so nervous is there any way to get over that nervousness please i need help
2006-10-01 13:43:52 · 7 answers · asked by avril 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly as a few others said. If you are nervous without a doubt you aren't ready. When you are ready you won't be nervous at all.
You say, "he wants to go farther". If he truly cares for you he will wait. How old are you? Sex is a big deal. There are several responsibilities that come with it besides just "pleasure". Such as is this guy STD free and I'm not just talking about him saying he is. Or what happens if you get pregnant. Condom, birth control pills it can STILL happen.
When the time is right you will know and the time right now, isn't the right time. So wait...........you will be glad you did.
2006-10-01 14:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Pam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to "want to have sex" with each other, that's hormones, but that does not mean it is the right thing to actually do at this time. If you are feeling nervous, as you say you are, then I think that is yourself telling yourself "No, don't do it."
There are a lot of pressures telling you to have sex, but there are also quite a lot of people who have decided to wait. You won't be alone.
You can decide to have sex and no longer be a virgin, but you can't take it back afterwards - so don't be pressured into anything you are not sure about.
Is there anyone you can talk to about things like this, who you trust their judgement and confidentiality?
2006-10-01 16:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right- you want to do it and so does he.the way to get over some of the nervousness is to be realistic and practical,fisrt time with someone always hard,even if yr not a virgin!make sure you have protection,and discuss it with him.this is no fling so its best to talk about it.DONT put yourself under pressure e.g we wil do it thursday night for sure.and the realistic side is it will be awkward,but it can be fun yr first time,chill out and dont get tense!if it doesnt happen for the first few times,its not the end of the world,discover forplay,feel around first,dont just jump for the end result.in the end if the forplay is right and your ready to go you wil know.good luck!
2006-10-01 14:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mistress j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it, you sound too young. Just because you have been dating for a year doesn't mean you should feel obligated to do anything.
2006-10-01 13:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lola76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If you don't feel comfortable then you're not ready. He seems good enough to wait so just tell him that it isn't time yet... If he doesn't like it then he's not the one for you........
2006-10-01 13:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this question has been asked before. Why dont you search for it in the search for questions to see the answers?
2006-10-01 13:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think about it so much and just let it happen naturally. Your fears are all in your head!
2006-10-01 13:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by scorpion187us 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋