I am 7 months pregnant. The father of my unborn child just recently got married and I just found out that his wife is pregnant as well. She knows about me being pregnant but not about the fact that the baby is his. I had no idea that he was into someone else other than me. HELP!
2006-10-01 13:37:40 · 14 answers · asked by K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Does HE know, if not tell him, you seem to know each other, and that being around there are going to be 2 children who are blood related, this needs to be known. This is not a good situation for you , it must be hard, but just take one step at a time, see what the reaction is and go from there. You may not feel it right now but it could be worse you could be married to him. It is sad to have this kind of stress when you are pregnant, I wish you the best.
2006-10-01 13:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by malraene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your knight in shining armor has 2 princesses to take care of now. Get a paternity test and seek support from the father. The fact that you didn't know he was seeing someone else should let his new wife know that you mean no harm- you just need help raising your child. She of all people will hopefully understand. Good luck!
2006-10-01 20:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation, You have to do what is best for you and your baby. Your baby is your priority and if he doesn't see that then you are MUCH better off without him- I promise- There are guys/men out there who WILL adore you and your child and do all the things the "dad/father" didn't or doesn't do. As for child support- you have to decide if you are willing to share your baby with him and his family including his wife and their child, visitation comes with the support, or in my case did and i was not about to do that- My son is now 3 and i have yet to file a case! Good Luck!
2006-10-01 21:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dixie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky ...you stepped in "it" got some on your shoe... but you can still wipe it off and keep walking - hey at least you didn't have to throw away your shoes and buy new ones , right? Stick the pig for child-support and move on... and next time be more choosy when you pick a mate...I am sure there is plenty of REAL men out there who would love to be your partner so don't let the bad apple spoil it for the rest of us... O.K.???
2006-10-01 20:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really irresponsible for the man concerned. You may not know he has another relationship but he knew it for sure, and he let you go through it without telling you for the last seven months. Maybe he was just interested in sex with you and no more. Talk to your doctor about this situation and see a specialist for some counselling.
2006-10-01 20:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by SH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. talk to your boyfriend about it.
2. keep the baby and take good care of it.
3. marry someone else.
4. Whats the name of your baby?
2006-10-01 21:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by ATAE 0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she should know. Secrecy will only bring you trouble. After that, forget about the a$$hole and hit him with child support for sure. He needs to be responsible; you didn't make the baby by yourself.
You'll be fine, many women go through similar situations, remember to stay calm, any distress you go through could damage your baby. Good luck.
Always, think with your brain instead of your heart. (for this situation)
2006-10-01 20:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by BeachGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HEY I KNOW THIS IS A HARD THING TO DEAL WITH BUT YOU NEED TO TALK TO HIM AND SEE IF HES GONNA BE THERE FOR THE BABY. IF NOT YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHAT YOUR GONNA DO. HIS NEW WIFE ALSO DESERVES TO KNOW ABOUT YOU AND HIS OTHER CHILD. IM KINDA IN THE SAME SITUATION. JUST STAY STRONG AND DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY!
2006-10-01 20:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by MUFASAS MOMMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on without him and hit his azz for child support.....if he can afford to take yall out wine and dine ya then he should be able to afford two children...it sucks in that situation but itll get better....goodluck to ya!
2006-10-01 20:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just realize you dodged a bullet by not being with him any more. My heart goes out to you
2006-10-01 20:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by NYGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋