My girlfriend and I have been going out for some time now, about 4 or 5 months, and sometimes, she picks fights out of nowhere, I know it's not that whole PMS stuff, because she's said it's not, so what is it? Is it my fault?
2006-10-01 13:22:01 · 17 answers · asked by last day of light 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after reading the answer about they wanted to hear an apology, that's not it, sometimes she just seems sad, I think she might be depressed...
2006-10-01 13:27:39 · update #1
Ha ha! I am sorry for laughing but I just read some of the answers. I don't know. It is hard to say. I can say this, I really believe there is a reason behind all the picking fights. It could be that she is just tired, depressed, wants some attention, or maybe it was something that you did and did not know that you did it ( girls are like that some time, there is no explanation for it ). It also could be just plain jealousy. I used to be that way sometimes. I was too proud to admit that I was jealous of something so I would just express my anger on it by starting fights over something dumb and totally stupid. That jealousy is a ugly thing and can cause a lot of trouble. Whatever it is you might need to talk with her, or pay more attention to her reactions to things and comments. It might be your fault and you are not aware of it, or it could be just childish play on her part. Just try listening and see.
2006-10-01 13:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by chocolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it probably is your fault but, you were not aware of it. What do her parents do? Do they have fights that come from nowhere? We only know what to do by what we have seen before. If it is, it is something you both can laugh about and learn from.
If she is sad it because, the conflict shows you love her. Lack of conflict or argument shows you don't care, which is not true.
Good luck
2006-10-01 13:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes girls get mad an try to pick fights. they want to feel like they are the bigger indiviual. If the fight really do come from no where then i dont think its your fault. I no that some guys do things that arnt on purpose but when she starts to pick fights ask her whats wrong ( nicely) an just listen even if you could care less..... all people need somtimes is for someone to listen.
2006-10-01 13:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-01 13:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by kl k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs more attention,it can`t be just you guily for the fight,every time,but sometimes it may be...cause we women need a lot of attention and love...just find out what`s wrong,and the only way to find it out is asking her...she will say "nothing",this is what we always do...even if there is something...and mostly it is something...you have to make her tell you what she is bothering.
so find out what`s wrong,and after this ask again what you should do.but don`t fall in her trap when she sais nothing,cause it`s not true,if there`s a fight there must be something that bothers her,and you have to ask her again and again till she sais it to you.
Good Luck.
kiss
2006-10-01 13:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How were her parents like? If they fought all the time, your gal probably needs counceling. She needs to learn how to communicate with you.
Please don't blame yourself for her behavior. The fact that you're asking this shows that you really care about her and the relationship. Try talking to her when she's in a better mood. Ask her what's the thing that REALLY bothering her.
Good Luck
2006-10-01 13:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nemrac666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes it is your fault. But only because you're male. I have been with my wife for 10 years, we still fight about stupid things and most of the time it's just because she needs the extra attention. (The other times is because I am an idiot) If you care about her, ride it out, you'll be fine.
2006-10-01 13:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Andy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what my ex started doing. You might want to watch her very closly. I dont ever want someone to go though what I did this summer. Just watch her closly and make sure she knows your there for her no matter what happens and you can never tell her you love her enouff.
2006-10-01 13:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dustin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not ready for a relationship. Wait until she grows up some more. Maturity and experience are great teachers.
2006-10-01 13:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only dating for 4 or 5 months maybe she dont trust you
2006-10-01 13:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes42o2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋