I dont understand why I get so nervous and sometimes hostile when somebody tries to shake my hand or hug me or anything. ive had a lot of breakups because of it and well i dont ever remember getting hugged as a little girl, but that was YEARS ago. please dont be rude, but can anybody help me figure out why i dont like physical contact?
2006-10-01 13:04:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Maybe it's because you aren't used to being touched so much, so it feels a little foreign or odd if someone touches you a lot now.
If you don't want a "touchy feely" relationship, you can let your friends, boyfriend, etc. know and they should respect your wishes.
If it's something you want to change, then find a close friend and share your situation and work on getting used to being touched, by hugging or holding hands with your friend. (This can be a female friend or a male friend -- it should be just touching only, nothing sexual, just touching to get you used to it.)
Hope this helps.
2006-10-01 13:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever see the news story about these orphan children in a third world country. They are so used to not having physical contact/affection that when they were finally adopted by people who love them they took a long time to get close to anyone, because they never felt the touch of a loving human being.
Not being touched as a child can effect a child as much one that is abused.
They lack the trust and the inability to be close to someone.
Like one of the people before my said try getting close to someone you already trust. If there is no such person in your life you should look into getting therapy. There are therapist who specialize in this exact problem.
Good luck and bless you.
2006-10-01 20:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by lajefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you had a bad experience when you were young. I'm kind of like you also. I'm not the touching type and i can't really get used to having someone hug me. We are in the same boat. I guess you could ask your friends to help you out since you trust them you might feel more secure. well you could try the method my friend used to try to get me more comfortable with hugging people. She told her friend to randomly give me hugs. I don't know. I'm still a little nervous when someone tries to hug me but not a nervouse as before.
2006-10-01 20:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by KSJTam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had any traumatic experiences when you were younger? If this is affecting your relationships it might be wise to seek some help and find out the cause. Everyone needs a hug once in a while. Give yourself one and get some help Good Luck
2006-10-01 20:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by seminoleswty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some pratice in "phyisical theraopy! " Start slow with light touching 2-3 times a week 10 min. workouts - then after a month bump it up to 30 min. add some hugging and maybe some "grabb-***" if you are ready . allow another week then bump to 4-5 times a week 30 min. workout adding more hugging-touching & squeezing and if your up for it some light petting and maybe kissing...by the third month you should be ready for anything from sex to kicking someones a$$ good luck!!!
2006-10-01 20:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get nervous or jumpy about it too. My family was never real "lovey , lovey" with eachother or others. I had a lot of very intimate and very dissapointing relationships with men in my life and I guess at some point I just distanced myself from the world and became more of an " untouchable".
2006-10-01 20:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes when a person feels this way might be of childhood negligence or abuse. Possibly some adolescent drug usage.Your childhood negligence might of caused insecurities that are affecting your love/social life. Find a person you connect with and dont be affraid of showing your true colors be loved.
2006-10-01 20:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because you didn't get hugged that much when you were little. my girlfriend is kind of like that and her family isn't touchy feely at all. it's not bad. you may want to practice touching with someone you trust, though, because it is physically good for you to be touched. you may come to like it if you can just get used to it. you'll be fine
2006-10-01 20:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bo Jangles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know unless you were touched in the wrong places as a kid. but to have some one hug or touch you is a wonderfull experience it lets you know people care. so go hug someone make their day.
2006-10-01 20:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ? Everybody gets nervous when somebody touches you.
2006-10-01 20:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Beejee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋