I am leaving background information out of this simply because I am more concerned with this persons actions...so here we go:
I had a very nice conversation with someone I work with that has a mutual interest in dating me. When we leave we embrace one another for a while and then she tells me to call her that night. I proceed to do so and no answer. So I leave a message. Never hear anything that night. Next day, I send her a text wishing her a great day. She replies to the text to wish me the same but still no phone call. Now today I call her and still she does not answer nor have I gotten a call. Normally, if there was never the invitation to call I wouldn't be bothered by this. But if she specifically requests me contact her that night and then she pretty much disappears should I have the right to be concerned? If not, what would you suggest that I do? Is this just another one of those female tests to see what a guy is all about?
2006-10-01 12:52:33 · 32 answers · asked by Justin G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes she is currently involved with someone but is unhappy with the relationship and but is afraid to leave because of "security" reasons.
2006-10-01 13:00:16 · update #1
And yes, we did work together up until this week when she got a job somewhere else.
2006-10-01 13:01:46 · update #2
Sounds like she is playing you.....as of today 10/03/06 have you heard back from her? If not then move on ...don't put your heart on your sleeve ..call some one who will love to hear from you.....
~Good Luck~
2006-10-03 12:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you work with her right. Yes. So next time you see her at work, confront her. Ask her why she isn't answering your calls. Or just tell her to start calling you. Give her a specific time that you are going to be home. That should work. If she still doesn't call you then there must be something wrong with her brain or her hearing. Maybe she doesnt get the concept or time, or maybe she can't hear the phone. I don't know. Hope this helps and Good Luck!!!
2006-10-01 12:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, maybe she freaked out when you called her. The idea of a relationship with you outside of work is ok to think about but the reality may be too much for her. Whatever the reason, just be cool, like nothing ever happened and try to let her know that it's up to her to make the next move.
2006-10-01 12:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by kp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may really want to talk to you but is afraid to. Take her to coffee and ask her...It sounds like someone has done a number on her and she might not be ready to go into another relationship for fear that bad stuff might happen again...however, I know this one girl who manipulates people to see if they will pursue her...if you think this is the case, take the losses now and get out while it's still not too late. Good Luck.
2006-10-01 12:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's a little nervous or afraid of taking the next step, so she's afraid to answer her phone? Of course, I don't know for sure but that could be one possibility.
If you've already called her twice and have left a message, but she hasn't answered and hasn't returned your call, then I'd quit calling. Continue to talk to her, of course, when you see her in person, but don't pursue her at this point. You've shown your interest, so leave it up to her to make the next step.
FWIW, I think it was pretty crummy of her to ask you to call her and then to ignore your calls.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 12:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you work with her right? so why don't you just go to see her when you get to work and say " hey tired to call you last night but you did not answer did you fall asleep on the phone". any ways it could be nothing just not home at the time and could be thinking that since you guys work together why call ya back. she would just tell you when she gets to work that she was sorry she missed your call.
2006-10-01 12:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by marie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of things could have happened. She may have gotten sick (flu) or her parents came to visit her, or she may have gone on vacation, or etc, etc, etc, I could go on and on. Best thing to do is just dont worry about it. You did as you were asked to do, now the ball is in her court. Next time you see her at work, just ask her if she got your message. She should reply. Dont be so quick to jump to conclusions and for your own sanity, be a little patient. Somtimes things uncontrollable does happen in our lives.
2006-10-01 13:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is playing games with you. She could be genuinely interested in you, just seeing how keen you are. You sound like a sweet guy. Do not waste time with people that are playing games. I am sure that there are plenty of girls out there who would love to return your phone call.
All the best!
2006-10-01 12:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is interested in you, but her disappearing act after work hours could mean that she is involved with some one else and considers what she is doing as harmless flirting.
Do not play her game unless you like torturing yourself.
2006-10-01 12:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this could be a test! Just know that she's into you, seeing that she replied to your text. Ask her why she did'nt pick up though. A word of advice, don't call again unless she specifically asks you to.
2006-10-01 12:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋