I feel bad and hurt that whenever I try getting little gifts for my bf here and there, it seems like he doesn't want them or cherish them. He treats them as if they're nothing. This hurts my feelings because each time I get so excited about the gifts, because they're from my heart and thoughts...but all he tells me is to hang on to them and that he'll grab them from me later on. On the other hand, whenever he runs out to buy me things, he gets upset if I don't take them. What is going on?
2006-10-01 12:40:11 · 20 answers · asked by Angelheart 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok men think that they should be the only one to buy gifts. We are totally diffrent then men emotionally and physically. Lets say you get him something that hes wanted for ever, he loves it but wont show it. If he gets u something you love, u gloat about it and everything. Just face it, deep down he loves it but he will never show it.
2006-10-01 12:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by sexyghostgirl69 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a guy, I don't really care too much about little gifts here and there. It's a nice gesture, sure, but it would be more important for you to hang out with me, or talk to me, etc. These things feel more substantial to a relationship. There is also the possibility that he just doesn't know how to express himself. Is he a shy or quite person? Self-conscious? For me, Christmas morning is always a tough day. My family gives me gifts, usually what I asked for, and I am appreciative. But it always seems awkward to express this, because I don't know if I sound sincere or not. Sometimes I'm very mindful of how I put the gift down after opening it, not wanting to look like I'm callously throwing it away without a second thought. Perhaps your boyfriend is the same way and uncomfortable with expressing himself.
2006-10-01 12:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by atomicfrog81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I've ever found with accepting a gift from a man is that many of them mistakenly think they've bought me with the present, so I find it easier to say no to the gift in the first place. As you're talking about your ex and a very friendly breakup I can't see this being an issue. In actual fact I think that turning down his offer and then having to explain why would probably cause more problems. I think you should accept his offer, but really it comes down to what you feel right about doing.
2016-03-18 03:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he is dealing with diminished feelings of self worth, not a good thing and seems like he'd rather give than receive, which is a good thing.
Keep your money, every time you see something you'd like to buy him write down the price and put that money into your savings account for the future. If you stay with him and end up marrying him, you can help pay for the wedding and tell him, "I used the money I saved from having to buy you gifts all these years". That would probably put a smile on his face.
2006-10-01 12:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like your presents and you know that he doesn't like them, why do you keep getting him them? If you just buy him material items, it's understandable but if you actual try to give him letters and stuff then it's different.
Tell him how you feel. If he won't accept cards that have your feelings scrawled all over them, you shouldn't be with such a robot.
Hey person below me, you must have dated some really heartless people because the guys I dated always appreciated the cards and gifts I got them.
2006-10-01 12:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him from now on if he wants you to accept and cherish the gifts he gives you, then he must start accepting and cherishing the gifts you give him.
You might also try getting him gifts that you know he will like. Don't buy things that you think show your love for him, give him things that you know he will love receiving. Acknowledging his preferences when it comes to giving him gifts is a good way to show you love him.
2006-10-01 12:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new boyfriend. Anyone who really cares about you won't treat you like that. He's talking DOWN to you when he responds that way. Kick his sorry butt to the curb.
2006-10-01 12:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by middle sista 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know that is a little strange. He seems very selfish, and uncaring. Tell him how you feel about it. Or set an example. Next time he gives you a gift tell him to hold on to it till later. If he gets mad, tell him well you do the same thing to me-- it hurts dont it. Maybe then he will be more accepting.
2006-10-01 12:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not appreciate your gifts .Don't buy him gifts anymore.why are you keeping giving him stuffs then? you love him and you wanna show your love to him with this small gifts. I understand that.If he does not see that ,All I have to say is that I feel sorry for him to send away such a nice gf.eventually it happens!
2006-10-01 14:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't like ur gifts, he won't! but try giving him something he really likes. ask his bestfriends or his family what he would like to hav. check his wishlist. or just don't buy anything else!!
2006-10-01 12:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋