my mom knows of him, but has never met him...and she doesn't like him and makes judgements based on nothing. How should I tell them...I can't stand lying to them because we have been dating for a month.
2006-10-01 11:47:09 · 16 answers · asked by achromatic_03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you live with your parents? Are they supporting you? If so, that complicates things a bit, but you ARE a legal adult and have no obligation to tell them anything. Still, for the sake of family harmony it might be nice to try inviting your mom to lunch with the two of you. She'll be less likely to diss him in a public place and it might give them a chance to get to know one another.
Good Luck!
2006-10-01 11:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult now. You will have to do stuff like this for the rest of your life. And you probably have learned that its always better to tell sooner rather than later. Parents make judgments immediately, from what you say and tell them about him and how YOU act. The reason its important for them to meet him is so that they can get to KNOW him and then make a judgment that is well valid and has more grounds of judgment. A month isn't that long, and its not like you can be serious with him that easily, you still have a lot of getting to know him......so its simple just tell your parents.....that you met a guy and have been dating him for the past month and you think they should meet him so they can get to know him rather than passing usual judgments. Need more help or have comments or questions about what I said e-mail me through yahoo answers.......:)
2006-10-01 19:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 18 and are legally an adult, I know its a big deal when your parents don't like your bf/gf but i think you should introduce them, because how can she not like him if they never met....The chances are 50/50... and if she still doesn't like him after they met don't worry about its your life and you can be with whoever you want as long as he makes you happy then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks... Maybe she making up reasons not to like him because he's taking away time from you and her i'm not sure because i don't know what kind of relationship you and your mother have, but if she respects you enough she'll learn to treat your boyfriend right....
2006-10-01 18:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably isn't happy with him because of the way you have kept him away. How can you be dating if he has never met your parents? Are you still living at home? If so, have you been sneaking around? There is NOTHING a parent hates more than sneaking. Its like lying and showing no respect. Are you ashamed of your family? That is how you are acting....and that is why your mother is getting judgmental...put yourself in her shoes....and then add alot of fear....
2006-10-01 18:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's understandable.
I've never looked for acception or respect from my parents. I give them plenty of cheeky answers, and I always get in trouble. You're 18 now- and you're legally an adult. You parents can't do anything about it.
If you mother doesn't like him, that's up to you. Do you look for your mother's acception or your boyfriend's? But I would continue going out with him. And I would tell my mother. Just tell them. It won't matter.
You're legally an adult. Remember that. Your mother will understand that there will be disappointments about you in her life. She won't stay mad forever.
2006-10-01 18:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by UnexplainablyBeautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them point blank. What are they gonna do, ground you? Are they gonna spank you? You are "grown" now. Or so they say. But we have all been there and done that I promise. The only way you will feel better, have them respect you and your decisions, or at least learn how to, is to jus tell them. Life will be simplier. I promise.
2006-10-01 18:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by a1b2c3d4bj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me. But you are over 18. Legally you are an adult. If you Mother has never met him, how can she have an opinion of him?
2006-10-01 18:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with them before some one else Tell's them , could you imagine how upset they would be ,say to your parents i would like to invite some one around for tea then during tea explain that you would like them to hear the good news first then introduce your boyfriend say to your mom that you appreciate that she has worries about your relationship & that if you are having problems you will ask for her advice
2006-10-01 19:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take ur mom to the side tell her first then eventually she will tellur dad and then the truth will come out
2006-10-01 18:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Cherry Blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them already, geeeeeeeeeez.... say Hey i got a man, Peace
2006-10-01 18:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋