i think people should waite a while to do it on the first date but i met this guy he is so nice in looks and attitude he treats me well and i want to give in but i dont want to be considered easy should i or shouldnt i i mean we are adults
2006-10-01 11:41:08 · 53 answers · asked by Cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a guy, and we would love to have sex on the 1st date, but if you don't give in, we'll respect u even more. So don't have sex on the first date.
2006-10-01 11:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by makaveli1788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult act like one..........I don't mean to be mean or anything but isn't sex supposed to be special and you have known this guy how long? Yeah that is how rumors get started and it would seem to make you a s!ut.........no offense........but its just not a good idea, get to know him first.
The WRONG Reasons For Sex:
To become his girlfriend -Sex is something you do only if you already have a bond. It can't create one. Sex without feelings will make him see you as a hookup, not a girlfriend.
To Save your relationship-
A rocky romance signals you aren't communicating and need to figure things out. Which can happen only by talking. Sex will just add more complications.
To get attention-
That kind of notice makes it hard for guys to see you as a girlfriend material. It will destroy your self-worth, making you believe that guys think all you're good for is sex.
To fit in-
Having sex is a personal decision about what you can handle. Doint it to seem cool gives other people control of your destiny-a sacrifice that could end in self-destruction.
2006-10-01 12:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of an adult r u by having sex on your first date? i guess its ok if you know the guy really well but remember that some guys act nice just so they can have the sex the first time u go out. Its more of a personal choice but i would say no.
2006-10-01 11:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely NOT COOL to have sex on the first date!
How well do you know this guy? Nice looks and attitude will wait and are worth waiting for!
You want to give in? Is he pressuring you, overtly or covertly, to do so? That doesn't bode well for a long term relationship!
The beginning of a relationship with the electricity of attraction is exciting. Why rush it?
2006-10-01 11:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot even understand why that is a question. Do what you feel to do. Why use sex as a weapon? What is the big deal?
Suppose the concensous was that you should not have sex till the 100th date would you listen? Do you realise how abitrary and random this 'Don't have sex on the first date' rule is?
If you feel it you feel it, it is neither wrong nor right. I will tell you this though. If you are one of those messed up women who like to make men jump through hoops for sex then he will never forgive you for that.
2006-10-01 11:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by jeremycharles7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have a very low opinion of yourself. Respect yourself and yourbody.
Women are like apples on trees. The best ones
are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the
good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't
as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong
with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait
for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to
climb all the way to the top of the tree
2006-10-01 11:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he seems nice and treats you well so far doesn't mean he doesn't have diseases or made 50 other girls think the same thing. Get to know him first!!!!! Have some self control! If he's really that great, you'll be with him for a while right? There's plenty of time LATER to have sex.
2006-10-01 11:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by CourtneyMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not on the first date!
2006-10-01 12:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by crystal e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it. guys like to play a game where they think its fun if they have to marry you first in order to get you. if you end the game and just give in to sex before marriage, they wont have any fun and they'll go look for someone else who will play.
do you want to be respected by this guy? ask yourself that for a moment. just sit back in your computer chair and think. do you really want him to love you, cherish you, treat you like an adult? if you set down the boundaries and say no to having sex so soon, you will get that and much more. the sex will be more worthwhile to you if you wait. but if you rush in now, he wont respect you. he will only take advantage of an easy target.
for your own well being, please wait.
2006-10-01 11:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Blop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think it's cool to have sex on the first date. If he is that cool and so nice then he would think more of you to wait it out just a little bit longer....but on the first date, no way!
2006-10-01 11:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by LES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋