So I have been good friends with a man that is 15 years older than I am for about a year. We met at work but neither of us work there anymore. We get along great and everyone always assumes we are dating. He tells me he cares a lot about me and would do anything for me, etc but he also says things like "I can tell you this cuz we are great friends and I'm not trying to impress you." He seems to have a problem with our age difference. Here's the biggie... he is technically engaged to someone who lives in another state and it looks like that has fizzled but he still calls her his gf. He calls me almost everyday and is always asking me to go do things. What is his deal? Will we ever be "more than friends"? Isn't it strange for a guy to be this close to a female friend?
2006-10-01 11:19:13 · 9 answers · asked by mizindependent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 20 and he's 35 but I act 40 (I'm not your typical college student). I'm perfectly fine just being friends. I prefer being single.
2006-10-01 14:44:54 · update #1
I think he's having mixed feelings... He wants to stay friends with you because he can tell you everything and anything without you getting offended or having mixed emotions, because when your in a relationship things get more complicated, and i think he really enjoys your company and he probably does want to be with you but he may still have feelings for his girlfriend Age ain't nothing but a number my boyfriend is 8 years older than maybe maybe not 15 years old but girls tend to be more mature anyway... I suggest you tell him how you feel and let him know because you can't get a straight answer if you don't let him know, and if he's not ready for a relationship or if he wants to stay "JUST FRIENDS" then still keep it cool with him and don't let your feelings get involved and spend more time in meeting the right guy then hanging with him... only time can tell well i wish you the best luck
2006-10-01 11:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between friends and friends with benefits. While you didnt give your age 15 yrs is a big age difference.Men and women can be friends so I dont see anything strange about that. Some men are mature and can handle the situation and want cross the line.Can you identify with the things he enjoys such as music or the old days. He is enjoying your company. He said he doesnt have to impress you because he isnt trying to make you anything other than a friend. He has a woman and if you are as good a friend as you say you are you should know where he stands with this woman.
2006-10-01 11:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend between opposite sex is not easy as you think, guy a lot of time want something in return otherwise they view as been use. Girl can easily make guy friend while guy has to make a lot more effort for doing the same thing they won't just come to you unless you are are handsome or sucessful. Girl doesn't had to be too attractive or had money and most guy will make friend will you. It is double standard.
2016-02-18 19:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are sometimes too complicated to explain. It's quite possible by keeping you "on the shelf" is some sort of security for him. If you want more, give him the choice of serious or gone. You may get your answer rather quickly then. But, never make a threat you don't plan on living with the result. If you can't deal with the possibility that he may leave you, then just keep on wondering. Your call.
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2006-10-01 11:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by ema e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt strange i have a boyfriend and i also have friends that r guys that r super close he may have feelings for u but if he does it is late just listen to ur heart stay close friends it may turn out to be something u never expected.
2006-10-01 11:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by iLuVjOrDaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question!! I have been trying to figure that one out myself. I think from the sounds of it he just wants your friendship. It doesn't sound like he wants to take it to the next level or anything. Take it for what it is--a friendship and keep it at that. If you want more maybe u need to look elsewhere and just keep the friendship a friendship.
2006-10-01 11:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by RHNBJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he may be just trying to hold on to you in case his "gf" in another state totally dumps him! I would suggest you enjoy the social life with your friends more your age and have fun!
2006-10-01 11:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you think?
2006-10-01 11:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋