Well, my heart's broken. I am in love with this guy, we have been together a while and, believe me, love like this is hard to find. It was love at first sight from the beginning, and is till this day. The problem is my parents dont approve of our relationship. It's a cultural thing. I tried so hard, and I'm hurting everyone. The guy I entend to marry, he just doesnt understand why, and I've tried explaining it to him, but I understand why he's so sad. My parents think I've "betrayed" them. I just hate myself. They don't want me seeing him, and I haven't told him that yet. I can't get the courage to do so, I love him with all my heart. I have been crying for days now, I've actually lost 3 lbs in the last week - I'm seriously dying inside. I can't sleep at night, I can't focus. I actually wished I never was born or just died so I didnt have to go through this. No one understands me. Cultural differences and conservative values have broken me.....
2006-10-01 11:10:10 · 11 answers · asked by broken....forever 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Love is the most complicated feeling . When we love someone we have tunnel vision . We can only see the good that would evolve from the relationship. I don't know how old you are but I am guessing you are just starting out as a young adult. I know you think there is no one else for you . I know your parents can not choose your mate . That is only for you to decide . You must remember that everyone makes wrong choices in their lives . The best advice I can give you is time. Time will tell the story . Never make a hasty decision that will effect you for the rest of your life . Absence is to love as wind is to fire it kindles the great and smothers the small.
2006-10-01 11:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by gary r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really explain specifically why you're kept apart, so it's a little difficult to know what to say to make you feel any better. If you really love this man, then when you're of legal age--(if that's a barrier) you will be free to be with him, if you so choose. If you are of legal age, then you can make the decision for yourself. Cultural differences can be really difficult to overcome in a relationship. Maybe you just need to take time to really think about how important your culture is to you, versus being with your love. Maybe now you feel that the love is more important--but are you going to feel the same way 5 years from now? 10 years? When you have children, are you going to want them to share the same traditions that you grew up with? If so, and your love isn't willing or able to share in your cultural traditions, then you wouldn't be happy for long. It's a lot to think about. I understand, also, that there's no way to be logical when it comes to heartbreak...believe me, I've been there. Keep your chin up, believe me, time does heal. Best wishes to you!
2006-10-01 11:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you're going thru this heart break it must be horrible to love someone and not be able to be with them.you are in a depressive state and should get a counselor and some meds just in the meantime while dealing with this. Know this having your families approval is important other wise life can be a living hell..being with someone your parents don't approve of will hurt you ..give yourself time and seek the comfort of a couselor
2006-10-01 13:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Webby, there are so many different answers and we need to know where you are in life along with what is happening. We got what is happening, let us know how old you are and how old the guy is that way we (who have experience with broken hearts, different cultures, and life in general) can give you a more on-target answer.
Good Luck!
Jen
2006-10-01 11:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by InstructNut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good piont webby. If you are of legal age then I say...There comes a time when you have to make those tuff decisions. If you truly love him the way you say and he is good to you then I say marry him. your parents will get over it or they won't but its him you want to spend your life with not them, Sooner or later they will have to let you go. Good luck I hope all turns out well for you with out too much sacrifice.
2006-10-01 11:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my job. Downsizing company now applying for jobs. I am sad. Life goes on. We all get problems. Need to cope. Talk to a therapist or a best friend.
2015-11-13 11:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart. Once you turn 18, your parents can tell you what you think, but you can basically tell them "this is what I want." After all, it's your life. Isn't it?
2006-10-01 11:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by hawaiian.nights 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is true if you are both legal age then marry. your parents will either except it or they wont. you are deeply in love don't let it be ruined. a love As yours doesn't come but once...
2006-10-01 11:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What doesn't kill you will make you stronger. You hang in there and you will come out a better person, no matter what the outcome is!
2006-10-01 11:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by kimgirlscout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always important to put your age when sharing these kind of problems. because the answer depends on where you are at in life and your level of maturity.
2006-10-01 11:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by webby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋