why do parents think that it's so wrong for your teens to have computers and laptops in there bedrooms? I mean if something is going to happen or if we are going to do anything... it wouldn't matter where we were. I don't get it. Can a parent please explain?
2006-10-01 10:53:40 · 27 answers · asked by ♥femme fatale♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Kids are less likely to become victims of predators and advantage-taking adults online when there are parents in the same room. Being alone invites trouble. Sorry, it's a good pracice, overall.
2006-10-01 10:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because if you go on the wrong website they (your parents) will have to pay for it...( I did when my son was 16) AND you can get some very bad ideas. Get your parents to allow it with a parental lock. You can still have fun, but there is some very bad things on this medium.....Look at the Young girls what have been murdered or raped as a result of teens going on chat lines, Act responsible and ask your parents to put a 'Parental controll' on your computer. The computer is a marvolous thing BUT you're also open every perv on the planet. That is the problem. Your parents love you.
2006-10-01 18:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by voddybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "wrong" but it can contribute to isolation within the family.
The only thing my son never had in his room was a computer and that's only because when he was coming up, even I didn't have one! However, think about the things that used to be done "as a family" compared to now. We used to fight over the TV because there was only one in the house. I remember having to play certain records for my younger siblings before I could enjoy my own music because there was only one "record player" in the house.
These days, there's no fights over TVs or stereos because everyone has their own. You don't even have to hear or complain about your kids' music because they are plugged into their I-Pods.
I'm not saying all this is bad, but it is a matter of choice within the family.
As far as computers go, they are a direct connection to the outside world, and just as you wouldn't approve of your teenager going certain places alone (think bars, strip clubs, or even hanging on the corner), so you should view a computer connected to the internet.
When the computer is in a public place (i.e., den, living room, etc.) anyone who walks by can see what's going on (even if you can't read the computer screen while passing by, the perception that you can is there), greatly moderates behavior. Kids are more likely to get into "naughty" things when they are unobserved. Think about how your telephone conversations with friends would change if the only phone in the house was the one in the kitchen?
It usually starts out as curiousity - not a need to do bad. What teenagers do you know of aren't interested in seeing pictures of other naked or nearly naked boys and girls? The need for comparison and peer acceptance are great at this age and other things can transpire. They are much less likely to transpire in depth if the computer is visible to others in the household. While your kid can still sneak peeks at "dirty pictures," and probably will, the odds of them engaging in prolonged or in-depth sexual activity or other questionable activity is much less.
As a parent, I don't have to walk over and read the computer screen to know my kid is doing something he thinks I wouldn't approve of, and when my kid is in his room, I want to know that he IS in his room, not "out in the world" via the computer doing god knows what!
Does that make sense?
2006-10-01 18:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by HoneySuite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the computer in a teens room, they have a LOT more freedom on what they can look at because they are not being monitored. if they are out in the family room, they are less likely to do things that they are not supposed to. have you ever seen the NBC show "To Catch a Predator"? well its a set up, a "teen" asks an older man to come to her house to have sex, and there are tons of men that actually do it, its scary that this is really happening. your parents just care about you, although right now you see it as a stupid and annoying rule, they are just watching out for your safety and you will appreciate it when you get older.
2006-10-01 21:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is allot of crap on the Internet nowadays and young girls and boys can be easy targets for cyber stalkers that just love to exploit naive teens on computers.One minute your chatting with the coolest guy you have ever met ,next thing you know you are setting up a meeting,and next thing that could possibly happen is that you could be abducted,raped and tortured.Sounds like to me that you have parents that really care about you.Yes if you are going to do something you are not suppose to be doing you can do it any where but like most parents favorite sayings is NOT IN MY HOUSE,be happy that you have parents that care about your safety and well being,and if you aren't doing anything wrong on the computer then having the computer in a common family area shouldn't be a problem for you.should it?;) (can you tell I used to have a teenager by the way I turned that one around)
2006-10-01 18:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am now a parent, but I was a teen once chatting online with strangers. I met up with people from the internet, and luckily, I never got raped or anything worse. I was never supervised online. I know how guys talk to women and teen girls on the internet, and my daughter will not have a computer in her room! I will do my best to protect her from predators. Teens are too trusting. It is MUCH harder to get in trouble with parental supervision. You can get into trouble, but at least you have to work at it more!
2006-10-01 18:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by MD2B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is harder to monitor use if it is in your room. And if something did happen what is the first thing that will come out of ppl's mouths??? Where were the parents... They are responsible for you and just trying the best to protect you. Computers and the Internet are not something they had to deal with when they were teenagers. Respect their rules and make them proud, you'll earn more privileges that way then fighting them on every issue.
2006-10-01 18:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by turtle43761 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Privacy.
Kids should not get caught up in the Internet world, which is easier to do if you are isolated in your bedroom.
Yes, if it is going to happen, it will happen; but if you are properly supervised, a parent can resolve the issue quickly.
KELLEY, Please do not be naive. Your son can/will find trouble anywhere on the Internet. Parental Settings are not going to prevent this.
I have had conference after conference every year where a middle school child is caught up in some Internet issue that the parents are completely clueless about.
2006-10-01 17:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because kids/teens are on the computer all day and your parents don't want you stuck in your bedroom all day and only coming out for food. You need to be in a place where there are other people and not just stuck in a bedroom with your face in a computer.
2006-10-01 17:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Teens are very curious, and when they see lots and lots of explicit material on a regular, unmonitered, basis on the internet they become de-sensitized to it, as well as curious. They should be educated about it first and made aware of consequences.
Too many teens these days have no social skills and too little education.
Get out there! meet and greet the people of the world in person! Stop hiding behind a computer and secluding yourself in voluntary solitary confinement, socially unaware of the society you live in!
2006-10-01 18:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by United_Until_I_Die 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are exactly right...if you are determined to do something wrong, you'll do it anyways. BUT in defense of all us parents..(I only have a 3 year old, but I'm only 24...so I still remember PRETTY well...).....They don't want to make it EASY for you to do something, or SEE something or CHAT TO SOMEONE wrong. You still have a portion of your innocence...and it diminishes with each peak, talk or photo that isn't age appropriate. Now, if you DON'T do those things, then all you can really do is SHOW your parents your trust worthy in all other areas, and eventually they'll trust you with that, too. But if you have easy access to a computer at home already....and they don't limit time on it, then what do you need one in your room for? Even if it's innocent chats with friends til 1am....it'll start effecting school work etc. They have their reasons...Hope I helped...good luck....
2006-10-01 18:06:14 · answer #11 · answered by pwg4077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋