I've been seeing someone now for two months. He has taken me out to where his ex hangs out (his choice) numerous times which is obviously uncomfortable. He stares at her and her friends as well when we're there. I wanted to know what was up so I asked him how exactly their break up came to be. He said that they were on and off for a while - on because they get along and have the same values/beliefs/whatever and off because of miscommunication which led to fights and then realizing what the other was talking about - needless drama. He said that they just got into a fight and he stopped talking to her and she followed his lead and stopped talking to him. I catch them exchanging glances ALL THE TIME when we're out (which is incidentally where they met).
Am I just the girl he's using to make his ex jealous? Is there unfinished business between the two? Is the fact that they keep exchanging glances mean that if I weren't in the picture, he'd be with her? What the hell?!? Help please!
2006-10-01 10:49:51 · 6 answers · asked by Plain Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They broke up and stopped talking 3 months ago. I talked to some people there and I guess he's been going there a lot since then and staring at her. He is not the creepy type, either.
2006-10-01 11:20:10 · update #1
He is on the rebound, he is using you to make her jealous
2006-10-01 11:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be that girl...
Either way, your BF doesn't seem to respect you very much if he's taking you there and exchanging glances with his ex. He may not even realize exactly how disrespectful it is to you..... Talk to him. You should get the pic from his responses. Tell him you don't appreciate it, and won't tolerate it (I don't mean, be mad about it- just tell him the bottom line).
Good luck.
2006-10-01 17:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know the answer already.... Yes he is using you to make her jealous. I suggest you don't go to the same place they hang out, and if he says NO then you know he is just wanting to see her.... Don't be the rebound! :)
2006-10-01 17:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by me :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't over her. You are probably being used. Get a backbone, and tell him you don't want to go where his ex and him used to hang out. Don't go with him if he insists. Pick another place to go.
2006-10-01 17:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Don't Know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, honey, you're just being used.
2006-10-01 17:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from him hes no good.
2006-10-01 17:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by blackbutton100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋