There's this dude i was with for 5 months. I broke up with him on our 5th months excatly. He had sex with a girl that was a friend of a friend. I decided i wanted him back but he says he dont desevre me. But I love him and its been a month and 13 days and i still cry at night for him. He says he just wants to be friends and that he wants to let our lives settle down. We had big plans and everthing. If he was the one to cheat and me the one to call it off but now i forgive him Why wont he take me back?
2006-10-01 10:39:12 · 21 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he probably knows that he isnt a good man for you. Cmon he cheated once, and would probably do it again. It will take a major event to get him to change, be honest with yourself, is love worth the betrayal that would come with a second chance?
2006-10-01 10:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is unfair in this sense. I'm going to say something that's very true, but some don't like to believe it when it comes down to the nitty gritty. Humans never fall in love, they fall into addiction that comes with the chemical rush pertaining to a specific stimili (I.E. Another person) In other words, this rush that you get, are amino acids in compilaton forming peptides in your hypothalamus to create your emotions. They come raining down and lock into every one of your cells. This being why stress is such a deciding factor in diseases like cancer and other cell degenerative disease. So basically, you're in love with the feeling you get from him. With this being said, the main triggers of this, is the feeling of excitement perhaps mystery, and there are always two sides. One person who is in control and one person who is out of control. When the female is in control, it is because the male is too clingly, when the male is in control it's because the female is. Basically speaking, the law of relationships is, whoever cares the Least, has the power. And your emotional attachment reinforces this law. It's what gives it it's power. If he doesn't care and is pushing away, naturally every action having an equal yet opposite reaction, you're going to feel more inclined to be with him. Simply to balance the equation. And if he wanted to be with you more, unless your emotional attachment was strong enough to override it, you'd be more inclined to push him away. Therefore his premature pushing you away has forced your emotions into feeling as though you still need to be with him. When honestly, a few months away or finding a new potential external stimulus would be more than enough to make you forget him entirely. Practically in an instant. My advice is forget him. I'd focus on all of the positive aspects of my life, and removing all things that reminded me of him from my life, completely. After this is done, with proper mental focus on what you do wish to experience in life, and ignore his thought completely, you'll be over him sooner than he thought, and next thing you know he possibly may want to get back with you, but you'll be over Him by then. Either way it will not matter. For you'll be the normal you again. How you were before you met him. Nonattached. You were born without him, you'll die without him, so there is no necessity stated you must live life with him. You'll do awesome. He's over.
2006-10-01 17:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the situation is that after cheating on you and experiencing other girls he is not ready to settle down just yet. I would vote on giving him some time and space and things should work itself if it was meant to be. If he is still willing to be friends, give that a shoot and he may fall back "in love" with you once again. Good luck.
2006-10-01 18:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by michaeldorian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time-he did not really cheat on you because you were broken up-but he may still need to think about this!! Be friends with him and tell him should he change his mind that you are still there for him!! It is hard not to cry for your loss -maybe you will get him back!! if not then try to move on and dry your eyes!!!
2006-10-01 17:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple...he's doesn't want a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. If he has a girlfriend right now, he's more then likely cheating on her. Also he just wants to be a flirt and big shot and just wants to "have fun" with females and not be SERIOUS with anyone.
He wont take you back because he wants to keep playing the field. He's in love with WOMEN not just one woman. let him go and move on, he's a dog!
2006-10-01 17:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by K!LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if he's saying he dont desevre you then that means he knows what he did was wrong and he want's the best 4 ya young love lol
2006-10-01 17:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by ms.sugar_lips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing he decided to be solo which means less problems in being faithful in relationships or he knows he can't be faithful so saving you time of not getting hurt over and over again be friends and move on find someone that really loves you cuz apparently he don't. good luck
2006-10-01 18:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably won't take you back because he knows that you want him, act like you aren' tinterested anymore. Talk to a couple new people. I fhe cheated on you once he can do it again. He want to be free so let him, he'll eventually see whats good
2006-10-01 17:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by answerer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey mabe his feelings have just changed and you need to move on. Or maybe he feels your just not right for each other either way if its meant to be it will happen if not it wont. Just give him space if he wants to come back he will.
2006-10-01 17:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the idiot who let him go, you can't say "oh, I don't want you" and then go and say "wait, I take that back" when he's probably already moved on. Honey, he just doesn't want you anymore. What goes around, comes around.
2006-10-01 17:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋