n even if u do leave him u still have to see him for the next 18 years depending when your child move out how would that feel seeing somebody u hate everyday for the rest of your life
2006-10-01 10:20:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would leave him anyway, and possibly move house, change jobs, whatever it takes. your child does not deserve such a callous person in their life.
2006-10-01 11:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-18 03:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what I'd do.
I'd stay with him until I was in a situation where I could pay for anything I need for my kids, and not have him able to say anything bad against me, and then get an annulment or something so we wouldn't have to rely on him for anything, he'd just be visiting as a former friend and sperm donor.
That's pretty much what I'd do.... Oh and for the one who said it's only the silly ones it happens to...it's possible for a wife to leave her husband and go back to speak with him privately and essentially be raped and the birth control not work right that day...or the husband to tell the doctor at last minute "NO tubal ligation..." while the wife is out of it and not in a position to argue....
2006-10-01 10:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...first of all, I'm sorry...but he may have done it to control you...but YOU'RE getting the blessing. And this may actually make him GROW UP and he may turn out to be a decent dad. First, you CAN'T let him control you. You need to evaluate your love for him. Do you, or don't you? That will lead you to the path you need to take. I hate hearing about people going to therapists, but it does sound like he has a control issue that NEEDS some working out. Be strong during your pregnancy..for the baby....stress is one of the MAIN complications in pregnancy and birth complications. This is YOUR child, no matter the father...and you will know NO GREATER love (on this earth, anyway) than the love of a child. If he doesn't step up(whether you are together or separated)-it's his loss....in life AND the pocket book. Go to your local human department of health and resources and they'll help with utilities, food, finding a job, AND getting child support.
2006-10-01 10:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by pwg4077 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd never be in that situation & believe me we do have options not that I'd use them either Abortion or Adoption & the courts would be in my favor seeing I was tricked you wouldn't have a leg 2 stand on & no I wouldn't stay with U I'd probably leave state 2 get away from U all together.Then there's another thing that could happen a Miscarriage that does happen alot so be prepared.Hope this helps U lol.Good Luck
2006-10-01 10:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all how the hell did he impregnate you without you knowing what was happening. I mean I don't see how that is possible unless he poked holes in a condom or diaphragm or something. Also, It doesn't matter anymore what happens between the two of you. You just need to concentrate on you and your baby. The relationship question is something u will just have to figure out on your own because only you know how you feel.
2006-10-01 11:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by stranger_grrrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you HATE him, you shouldn't of been sleeping with him. But now you have to dig deep and figure out how you reallly feel.
Like I said..You HATE him..
DO YOU..REALLY
AND WHY
You will be having a baby
OR WONT YOU
WHAT IS IT YOU ARE GOING TO DO
if you will be keeping the baby
you will have to grow up and be an adult
Get Help with your problems
if you cant work it out
don't get the child caught up in it
Work out a custody arrangement..and over time, seeing him to drop of and pick up the baby..wont bother you one way or another once you start living your own life...
meaning , your dwelling on him to much if you have time to hate him...dwell on you..it will do you some good
2006-10-01 14:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by RAW29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say I should've been paying more attention! Keeping in theoretical (seeing as the situation would be impossible for me), I'd take care of myself so the baby did well, but likely end up letting another couple adopt the baby. Meanwhile, I would leave the a$$ and go my own way. Having someone's child does not bind you to them if there isn't already a healthy relationship.
2006-10-01 10:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by erythisis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would leave him. And raise my child by myself. Unless I already really wanted to be with him. Then I would talk to him and tell him that I want to be with him but just to let you know Iam not going to stay with you forever just because we have a kid together.
2006-10-01 10:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Give him 2 options: either pay child support, (you limit his visitation) or terminate parental rights and "See ya, how does karma feel?"
2006-10-02 07:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋