if parents are not allowed to discipline there children were will it come from if not at school or home?

Question

punishment

Answer 1

Parents are allowed to discipline their children but they are not allowed to beat,smack,kick,kill, and abuse their children.

Answer 2

You can discipline your children.

You are not allowed to hit them.

People get confused the role of disciplining children is to do exactly what it sounds like you give them the discipline to act in a certain way ( you are teaching them )

Therefore if you talk to your child and teach them that if they do wrong they will not have nice things or be given treats or have their liberty taken away by not being allowed to play with friends etc. then they will conform.

If you hit your children the discipline they get from that is that physical attacks are the way to get things done. You hit me I will hit someone smaller and weaker because thats what you taught me.

Even the most violent prisoners ( excluding mental health inmates) regard solitary confinement as punishment a good kicking from the guards holds no fear as they have probably been beaten all their lives ( it never did them any harm did it)

Parents need to work with the schools and take responsibility for their children when at home and support the schools in detentions etc when they are naughty there.

Answer 3

Parents can (& some do) discipline their children, even with paddling. Those that do don't have to do it often. The others usually wind up raising their own too leniately , the kids wind up in jail or prison where they really find out what discipline is. I'm not saying they all end up that way but very many of them do. For those who think paddling is wrong, look at George Washington, His Dad took him to the woodshed when needed ( used a strap)& look how he turned out. It doesn't matter what era or time a child is raised, they need discipline & consequences. The longer they go without , the worse the consequences will be. I raised 15 & never had to go pick up a single one at the police station. They are all married,grown & have their own now. They don't have to go pick theirs up at the police station either. I am not advocating abuse. Children need to know that their parents can & do lose their tempers too just as they need to know that parents cry, grieve, laugh or have any other emotion. I know I will change no-one's mind on this score but no-one will change mine either.

Answer 4

All children's behaviour is learnt no matter what people say. a child of 4 can not just start typing a letter it has to be taught how to write first. If children see a behaviour pattern it is obvious that is what they are going to learn. We may all think that we are calm parents and a quick slap here and there won't hurt, WRONG, I landed up in hospital many times over 12 years (my parents told the doctors I was accident prone) because my father and mother could not control their behaviour when smacking. If you need to smack you have lost. Teaching correct behaviour works well. My son is now 16, I have never smacked him, but taught and talked about what is right and what is wrong, he is well balanced, has a good job and I am very very proud of him. Good luck

Answer 5

I have been thinking that

The problem we have right now is that the government has made so rules and laws.

I was brought up very well by my mother and if i did anything wrong i was smacked for it, i was brought up to believe that it was wrong to be in trouble with the police and to respect my elders.

To this day i have never been in trouble with the police and i fear them and i have never really done anything i shouldnt have done.

But now i have my son and it seems that i have no real rights to him, i am not allowed to smack him because there is a new law against it so what am i going to do?

Everyone in my family was pretty much brought up the same and we are not thugs or thieves and all these children who are growing up now and they have no proper discipline will be in big trouble when they grow up because of this.

Don't get me wrong, i will continue to smack my son but i do it in moderation. I only EVER smack him when he is doing something that means he could hurt himself or someone else and it isnt really a smack but a tap on the hand.

I do feel for my son though because i think by the time he is a teenager there will be so much more peer pressure than i had growing up and there will not be as important for him to concentrate on his studies in school

Answer 6

There will be no discipline, because everyone is so busy defending their rights that they don't have time to think about their responsibilities, like that of being a decent, honest, hard working person. Society will go to hell in a handcart and eventually the only option will be military control (because the police and courts have no teeth left anyway). So lets stop telling parents how to raise their kids, lets stop telling teachers they cannot bawl a kid out for being a monumental pain in the butt, and lets stop telling the police they can't clip a yob round the ear. They can have their rights when they have earned them, until then lets focus on their responsibility - of being someone who has earned respect, not just demanded it.

Answer 7

The theory that patents "are not allowed to discipline" their children is an excuse used mainly by parents who can't be bothered to. you can discipline a child, you can even smack a child - you cannot leave a mark. But can I leave you a question? Why do so many parents think that smacking is the only form of discipline???

Answer 8

Contrary to popular belief parents can discipline their children,
spanking on the bottom is the best way no harm is done to the child but they will listen the next time.

Answer 9

You just have to bring them up with proper discipline and not to smack, abuse or bully them or they themselves will turn out just like that, also not all kids behave as they will always get mixed up with the wrong crowd, the parent are unaware this is going on, I have seen these things going on, so know it does happen,parents will always deny that they are the cause of all anti-social behaviour

Answer 10

You can discipline but don't kill them! My philosophy is that we should be training our children to be productive members of society so just as adults that break rules loose privileges so should our children. My one daughter loves the computer so I take it when she is disobedient and my son loves trucks so guess what gets packed away when he performs? They hate when we do that so they try to avoid getting in "hot water." There are tons of other ways too including spanking. I do not object to spanking but I have an issue with folks hitting kids with objects and bruising them. That's when it's abuse.

Good luck!