i have no idea what to say to her because i got married young. i just do not want her to rush into anything. what do i say?!?!?!?
2006-10-01 09:39:31 · 22 answers · asked by blushing_bride_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be prepared to be with her through some tough times. My grand mom got married at 15, my mom at 17, and me at 19. My mom got married because she was pregnant with me and it was a terrible marriage. My grand parents were married for 35 years, until my pop pop passed away. I have been married 2 years and no children yet, my marriage is going strong.
She thinks she is doing the best thing for her child, but it's probably the worst. She should want to get married because she loves her fiancee, not because she's pregnant, it's a set up for disaster.
2006-10-01 09:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you'll be there for her. Help her out because you know what it's like. I think she's too young, and you probably think so, too, but it's her decision right now. She's going to be a mother and she needs all the help she can get from people that truly love her and care about her. And just because you did something doesn't mean the same thing is right for her.
Good luck and I wish you all the best. Sorry I can't offer any good advice.
2006-10-01 10:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, I see... lol ... your first question confused me...
well tell her not to rush through it and share your personal experiences and feelings with her that you had when you married young too. tell her to keep it easy, and i were a big sis like u, i would be like if you need any help, you can always ring me because i've gone through this before!
oh and the best you should do to cheer her up is CONGRATS, but is ur parents willing? and if you're older than her, when she has a child, try to do her favor and help her watch this child. she's still a junior/senior, and if i were a good sis i would let her finish her education for further success in her future and for her family too. so yeah..... do what you can do, so she can still look back and totally thank you for being such a great role model!
glad to help! =J â¥
2006-10-01 09:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by geml0vely888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not gone threw this personally, but it is really her choose. Is she mature enough? does she love him? will she be a good mother? and Will i be a good sister there for her when she needs me? those are some questions to ask your self. Life is not the easiest thing, but you can almost always change the bad. But no matter what, make sure you tell your sister you love her and you will always be there for her.
2006-10-01 09:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by LaLa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her the major questions of like do you love this guy or is it just because of the baby. are you happy with this decision or ar eyou just doing it to make other people happy. If she is happy and she wants toj do this then wish her the best of luck and always be there for her.
2006-10-01 09:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by marlette n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to just marry this guy because she's pregnant with his child. She should get counseling first especially if this is her first relationship and bf.
2006-10-01 09:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u still with the guy u married?If your not then u might want to tell her your reasons why she might want to wait.Otherwise if your still with him then wish her luck and just give her your advise on how you kept your marriage going...Good luck.
2006-10-01 09:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you try to say anything other than congratulations then it will become all about you and thats not what you want. she has to find her own way and you have to let her just be there for her if it goes to hell in a hand basket...
2006-10-01 09:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you're there for her if she needs you. Some people need to learn things the hard way, and who knows? It could work out.
2006-10-01 09:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baby is gonna be coming, no matter what. at least it can have the dad's name on the birth certificate. she has to live her own life, and learn her own lessons. just give her your emotional support and be there for her.
2006-10-01 09:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋