Okay, so i went out with this guy for 5 months and we broke up about a month ago. He's so obsessed with me, it's crazy. He still tells me he loves me/tells me how he feels about me and we still go over to eachothers house and hang out on weekends, we're best friends. We go to the same school, and he usually follows me around. We still give "passionate" hugs before we go to class, and i still like him. But the thing is he's always depressed and he gets really annoying sometimes. I feel really bad for breaking up with him, because he wants to go back out and there is no way he'll leave. The reason i left him was because i couldn't handle his behavior, he asked too much from me and was really clingy. I don't know if i should ask him back out because i like him and have known him for so long, what should i do? I mean i like him, but i feel like going back out with him will only lead to breaking his heart and mine again. We're in high school btw.
2006-10-01 09:23:41 · 16 answers · asked by Goose Feet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are sending him mixed messages. it is you not him. you broke up..but still goes over each others house on weekends. you claim he is obsessed but you are not helping matters. you are either done with him or you are not. stop playin him. also you give the impression you are full of yourself. if he found someone else you would probably just die. make a decision and stick to it.
2006-10-01 09:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need to talk to him one on one about the reason you broke up with him. Tell him what you wanted from the relationship and what went wrong. Also that you believe it will be best for yous to just be friends and nothing more. But if he convinces you in some way that he can be that guy you want and he will change you can give him that chance and than if he messes up again, just tell him that you two are just better at being friends and that love you have for him is just a friend love and wont change. Be easy on him and sure he will understand and if things do work out for yous than you will be happy you did give him a second chance he might be the one you belong with
2006-10-01 16:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him completely. He has made neuron-net connections in his brain that lead to deep rooted emotions. His instability could mean rash decisions, action, and even fatal-attraction. It isn't healthy, Until he's depending on himself for life happiness everything will seem like it isn't enough to him. He's trying to fill a hole, but he doesn't realize that all things come from within; Only then can one enjoy things without. Avoid him at all costs, and tell him why. Make sure he understands. When he's stable, he'll be fit for a relationship. Obviously that time isn't now. Relationships are more than finding the right person, it's being the right person. Honestly he's got to figure himself out before becoming someone else's burden, thus being the reason for all of his drama and clinginess. Until he's stable. which could quite possibly take years. Stop talking him. but because of his emotional addiction and attachment to you, I'd suggest that this be the last time you guys ever speak. Interaction with you will just bring those deep rooted emotions, and perhaps all the miserable byproducts that come with them (I.E. Clinginess, etc.) back into effect. It's force of habit. There's billions of people in the world. One less isn't going to mean anything to him in time. It'll be better for both of you, and you'll find it to be the decision that's right for both of your lives.
2006-10-01 17:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is right, if you feel like the need of getting back together out weighs the broken hearts, go for it, but you shoud also think about things in the long run as well, relationships, especially young ones, in highschool are more for people growing. you're not going to get married or anything. Both he and you could learn a valuable lesson from this. He can learn to be not so clingy, because girls don't dig clingy. so what you feel is right for you, also talk to your best friend about this, and possibly him, but he'll have a very biased opinion.
2006-10-01 16:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by fairyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him that hes too much for you right now. It sounds to me he might be a little immature for you. Keep being friends with him, but tell him to back it off a little bit. OR you could always take a chance and see if hes still the same as he was before. OR suggest him going to a psychologist and getting somesort of medication. Thats obsessive behavior is unacceptable. If he starts scaring you I say run and tell someone. In the mean time if you still like him and hes not too much for you yet, stay friends. Friends doesnt hurt people normally. Good Luck
~Ambrosia~
2006-10-01 16:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by amberpurkey2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
KC
You need to stop sending this guy mixed signals giving him "passionate" hugs before class only gets this guy hopes up and that is why he is obesssed with you for you are leading him on so you need to be firm and set boundaries and tell him you can be his friend but at this time you can not give him anymore then that good luck to you
2006-10-01 16:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, too young to get a reality check..you are still in high school..and too much long to go. 5 months in relation and you want to back out... that will be the best thing you will do in life...Just imagine if you continue with him...and probably had to regret after many years...ooops unimaginable...better find some good guy who love you and respect you more...love is a sacred bond, with trust, happiness, respect, fondness ...and nothing much could hurt if their is no respect...study well and be something in life
love
Asif
2006-10-01 16:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Asife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a marriage like this, believe me, until he gets help himself, NOTHING will make him happy, for long anyway. You need a clean break as it's not fair on either of you.He needs to be complete as a person instead on relying on you for his self esteem and until you let him go completely he'll mever do that. You're probably worried about him meeting someone else, but that will pass, and they won't make him happy either.
2006-10-01 16:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by flumoxed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to tell him enough is enough either tell him to stop being depressed and acting that way and go back out or to take a hike, ur hurting him more by hangin out w. him and stuff then to a bad climax.
2006-10-01 16:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by starprosecutor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him and let him know how you feel and tell him what you want out of the relationship and see what happens from there
2006-10-01 16:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by sara s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋