2006-10-01 09:10:22 · 28 answers · asked by clair r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't, he won't ask until he's ready. Wouldn't you want it to be spontanious, a surprise. It sort of kill's the moment if you know it's coming. Or maybe you could ask him???
2006-10-01 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be straightforward.
Hinting just doesn't seem to work with men that I know. They either don't get it or they play dumb.
Don't be accusatory or confrontational. Wait til you're both in a good mood and til you're both in a place where you can have an intimate talk without being interrupted. Then ask him if he sees the two of you getting married in the near future.
If he evades the question and you can't pin him down or if he says flat out he's not interested, my advice is to make the decision on your own. Can you continue the relationship on that basis? If not, you're better off ending it now. I know too many women that got strung along for years until they realized they were dating a committmentphobe.
2006-10-01 18:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well women that I know that wanted the guy to marry them and he wasn't moving as fast as they wanted they have done one of two things.
1. Put the pressure on him and nag him till he does it: not very romantic and the person didn't get what they wanted out of a proposal because the guy just felt pressured. They are married now.
2. Propose to him: women I know just get tired of waiting and this is the last straw. They seem to wait all the major events out thinking that by a certain point he should have done it. They get to the point they feel he will never ask so they do it. These women I have found are much more happy in the proposal the the first.
I suggest #2! To tell you the truth to nag and wine to get him to marry you may work but in the bottom of your heart you will wonder was it just because I wined! #2...go for it
2006-10-01 17:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, but if you want it so bad-propose to him. A lot of females make the moves these days. It is not that big of a deal and you can always go back and tell the story of how you asked him.
2006-10-01 22:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by kris200088 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop little hints "oh so and so are thinking of getting married" or "id love a spring wedding but with all the planning id need to get engaged soon" or you could work through his mates, talk to them tell them your plans and try to get them on your side force in numbers and its always best to make him think he came up with the idea if all that fails then ask him
2006-10-01 16:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask him? If thats not how you want it... gently ask him what he thinks about marriage... Maybe his scared of rejection? If thats not the case maybe his just not ready yet and if you love him and believe he loves you, maybe you should give it a little while and see what happens in a few months..
He might suprise you one day and treat you to a big expensive dinner.. :) Good luck hunni, hope it works out.
2006-10-01 16:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make them ask you you either have to wait until they want to or get up the nerve to ask y9ou or you have to ask them yourself. If you ask him and he says yes you can always tell everyone how you had to do the asking.
2006-10-01 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by marlette n 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you can "get" him to do anything... He has to want it. I personally wouldn't want to be married to someone that I had to coerced into marrying me. Wouldn't you rather he ask because that is truly how he feels?
2006-10-01 16:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by jmlmmlmll 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Clair
Ya no what do what you think he might do, Like get down on one knee and ask him
2006-10-01 16:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're trying to force the issue...then probably won't ask. All things happen in the right time.
2006-10-01 16:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by zeta121 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋