My mom and me were talking one day and somehow we got into a conversation that if I ever got pregnant and didn't have an abortion she would disown me. She was being very serious. She said she would kick me out of the house and not pay for my schooling. Her reasons were: costs too much, disgrace, ruining my life, too young, bad example to sister, and hating my bf. Is my mom looking out for me or is it something else?
2006-10-01 09:02:57 · 36 answers · asked by Alexis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother loves you very much.....she is trying to frighten you, so that you dont ruin your own life. Falling pregnant at such a young age has devestating effects...you are bringing a child into the world...that child will be your responsibility forever and a lot of boyfriends will not stick around and ruin their lives by becoming a father too young.....Thats two lives ruined. It costs a hell of a lot of money to raise a child so your mother is very right. It may be a bad example to your sister, it may not. Your mother is looking out for you, she is telling you that falling pregnant at such a young age will ruin YOUR life.
You need to take all precautions so you wont fall pregnant.....you are playing with the rest of your life. Your mother is just taking the hard line with you in an effort to protect your best interests. She loves you very much. If she didnt, she wouldnt bother even having that conversation with you. Shows to me you have a very responsible, very loving mother.
2006-10-01 09:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is, BUT, She probably means if you get pregnant outside of marriage or something. My mother used to say the same thing to my sister and I. She has two children, from two different guys, and is living at home with our parents. I am married and I have a two year old son. She tells me often that I better not get pregnant again even tho I am married. All mothers are like this. I don't know why they are, but they are. How old are you anyway? If you are under the age of 18, she is looking out for you. If you are over the age of 18, she is trying to control your life. My mother would have never made me get an abortion. She may have wanted me to, but I would never had done it just because she wanted me to. I got pregnant on my 18th BD, she thought that I ruined my life. She is trying to get me to come running ome and leave my husband. Your mother is just like this because she thinks of you as her little girl. Just give her time, and show her that you aren't her little girl anymore, but her daughter. There is a difference. Good luck.
2006-10-01 09:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother I would hate to hear that my daughter was pregnant before she got out of school, but I love her and my love has no limits or restrictions. # 1 she will always be my daughter no matter what and I will always support her in any situation that she is in and in any choice that she makes. Turning my back on her would be the worst thing that a mother could ever do and it is wrong!!!!! Life is full of mistakes and you can either make them mistakes forever or turn them into life learning experiences. Your mom needs to rethink what being a mom is about...it is unconditional love for the rest of her life.
2006-10-01 09:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by stacy196922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else. If she were looking out for you she'd support you and not want you to kill her grandbaby. It isnt a disgrace to be a young parent. Its a disgrace to have the abortion after have irresponsible sex. I dont h=think she'd really kick you out but then if she did there are alot of programs to keep you afloat and you dont need her. As a mom myself, itd be the other way around. If my teen daughter was pregnant Id have her keep the baby and I would care for the baby while she finished school so that one day she'll be capable of doing it on her own. I would not allow her back home if she DID have an abortion.
2006-10-01 09:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well no matter what your mom should love you unconditionally. If you got pregnant she should let you make the choice whether you want to keep the baby or not and support you. I think that is being mean or just strict. It wouldnt be a good example for your sister, but it would be no reason to disown you.
2006-10-01 09:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's definitely not being mean, she's trying to get you to strive for more from your live. It's her job to look out for you and to help you make responsible choices.You should consider yourself lucky that you have a Mom who cares about you enough to be this honest with you. It may sound like she is being harsh, but she's probably big-time scared underneath. As the Mom of a 13 year old I can tell you it's one of my biggest fears.
2006-10-01 09:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm afraid your mom is being extreme. think about it - if you make a mistake and then decide to deal with it responsably without killing an innocent life - she will disown you for that and basically ruin your life. most likely she was just trying to scare you into behaving, but if she meant it, those are definately some serious threats. but, there is no doubt that she loves you and just doesn't want you to throw your life down the drain. her biggest fear is probably you having pre-marital sex and she was just telling you the consequences she was going to dish out if you do decide to go through with it.
to save yourself the heart ache and trouble, how about just not having sex until you're married?
2006-10-01 09:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its a bit harsh that she wouldn't support you nor allow you to make the decision yourself without the added pressure, but I do agree with her not paying for your schooling. Part of making the decision to have sex and create a life is saying that you are old enough to support yourself and pay your own dues. I say if that is the choice that you make then you should have to pay your own way.
2006-10-01 09:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by jmlmmlmll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just trying to convey to you just how important it is for you NOT to get yourself pregnant. She has set out some clear consequences for you if you don't listen to her. I would give her the benefit of the doubt, & believe her.
Yes your mom is looking out for you. It would be mean of her to not be honest with you, by not giving you fair warning of the consequenses BEFORE you became pregnant, & then do all of those things she said she will do any way now wouldn't it.
You can easily avoid becomming pregnant by abstaining from sex until AFTER you are married.
2006-10-01 09:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think anyone that would disown their child has got some serious issues b/c for one, it maybe a mistake if you get pregnant but it will be one of the best things that ever happen to you when you have your own child.
2006-10-01 09:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋