My wife is pregnant and doesn't clean the house what should i do?

Question

I work 10 hours a day but all i see is work my wife hasnt done.The same dishes are dirty and you can tell no work has been done ladies please help.

Answer 1

Maybe she is depressed. Did she do all the housework when she wasn't pregnant? Help her out to get her going.

Answer 2

To all the women whining and moaning...please. I just had a baby, and I worked 33 hours a week as a nanny (I was a teacher, but we'd moved mid-year) until I was 8 months pregnant. That included a month-long bout with SEVERE sciatica (I was in tears every night). I was tired, but, come on people. There aren't any cleaning fumes from doing the dishes, making a bed shouldn't tire you out, and it's not that hard to vacuum a room. Yes, I sound harsh. But far too many women use the "I'm tired" excuse to get out of everything. Actually, if you are active, UNLESS there are contraindications (and the doctor would say if there were), you will be much healthier, have more energy, be better able to maintain your weight, and your baby will be healthier AND more intelligent. (I'm referencing one of the sites below...go to the section entitled "Can exercise harm the baby" to read all about the benefits for the baby).

I suggest showing your wife this article, which details the benefits for both her and the child of regular activity and exercise, which can include chores around the house. I'd help her out, especially with the heavy stuff (carry groceries, bringing laundry up/down stairs, moving furniture, etc), and, obviously, you don't want her working with toxic chemicals, but I think sitting down and telling her you're concerned might help, esp. if you ask her what tasks she will do, and which she really needs your help with.

I gave birth July 1 to a healthy, incredibly strong and alert 7lb, 15 oz girl at 41 weeks, gained only 20 pounds (I'm 5'9" and ate like a horse throughout pregnancy), and had an 8 hour start-to-finish labor - I credit remaining active throughout the pregnancy for this and my quick recovery. I lost all the weight by two weeks post-partum and was back to my normal activity by the weekend after I came home. Unless she has health problems, she should keep active.

Answer 3

Didn't I tell you to stop spending all day on the computer!?!?!

:D LOL, sorry.. you sound EXACTLY like my husband though! He works 10 hour days and I am 8 months pregnant. Okay... trust me, being pregnant is NOT as easy as it looks. I start trying to clean, only to start feeling incredibly hot, my heart starts racing, and I feel like I am going to pass out. I immediatly have to lay down. What happens then? I fall asleep because of the fact that I toss and turn wide awake in bed until 3 am and get woke up at 8 or 9 by my hungry dog or cats. THEN I sleep until I hear my husband walk in. So... it looks like I have done NOTHING all day... but I tried. My energy usually picks up during the afternoon so thats when I really try to get to cleaning, but by that time my husband is home and he is so impossible to clean up around. By that I mean, as soon as I clean up an area, he throws his dirty @&& socks there or dumps his trash and dishes places they aren't supposed to go. If I tried cleaning with him home, I'd literally be cleaning the entire time he is here. He trashes the place much more than I do... so thats another thing. Perhaps she feels like you make 90% of the mess, why does she have to clean up after you like a slave.

Answer 4

I'm pregnant too. and for awhile i was exactly the same. i used the I'm tired excuse too much. what i suggest is set aside one weekend to do all the housework, TOGETHER, a complete blitz. then take her out for dinner, somewhere of her choice. Then the housework is a matter of maintenance. this should be a joint thing too. let her know how much you love coming home to a clean house after a hard day's work. Personally, i turn into a crabby ***** when the house is dirty, and then my husband gets crabby when he comes home to a filthy house. lose-lose situation. drop hints about all the germs and bacteria and stuff. if your wife is living in filth, then so is the baby. but don't expect her to do it all herself, if you're going to live together, then maintain the house together. if the house is clean, that also leaves heaps of time for other things too...a warning, this may take a couple of goes for her to get the idea. but if you're helping too, it shouldn't take long. Also, i found being active, but not overdoing it, helps with back pain.

Answer 5

Join the club. My wife is lazy. The only way I seem 2 get my Wife motivated is go off @ her after a hard day @ work. It seems 2 work 4 a couple of weeks then it's back into the same old routine.

Answer 6

I feel sorry for your wife being married to you. You may work 10 hours a day, but you have no idea how hard it is on your body to grow a child inside you. Aside from how draining it is being pregnant, cleaning fumes is not something a pregnant woman should be around. Hire a cleaner or do it yourself. You should be honoring your wife for carrying your child and stop bitching about what she's not doing for you

Answer 7

what should you do? Do the dishes vacuum sweep and mop the floor scrub the toilet wash the windows wash dry fold and put away the laundry oh yeah and dont forget to have supper on the table at 5. Hello shes has a human being inside her 24hours a day 7 days a week she is carrying a human being tell me you wouldnt be tired after that!!!!

Answer 8

Trust me...this will work. I went through a lazy phase when I was pregnant. I didn't want to clean and didn't think my husband would care to clean if I didn't. So--for about a week he cleaned and it made me feel so guilty. I know it's a pain in your rear...but just do it. Don't complain about having to do it either that will make her NOT clean in spite of your complaining.

In no way am I saying what I did or she did while pregnant was right. I think it's horrible to live in a dirty home.

AND give me a break. I was pregnant and used the "tired" excuse several times. You aren't tired all day from dawn to dusk.


I'LL TELL YOU AGAIN IN ALL CAPS. SHE IS NOT "TIRED" IF SHE STAYS AT HOME ALL DAY. SHE IS LAZY.

Answer 9

talk to her see why and if she is tried or depressed you need to help her...either get a maid twice a week or clean the house your self so what you work 10 hours being pregnant isnt all fun its hard to get up and do anything and its hard to stand a long time

Answer 10

Get used to it - it is going to get worse after the baby is born. Pick up some of the slack and hire a housekeeper.

Pregnancy is tough and you have to realize there are lots of things going on with your wife physically and hormonally. You are lucky she isn't barfing all day...

Answer 11

dos she work? how far alone is she? i work 8hr days and still come home and clean my house and I'm 8mo and 1 week preg. i know she feels tired i feel tied all the time but its something that needs to be done my husband works 11 hr a day to .