What's wrong with parents today???

Question

Why do parents feel the need to be their sons/daughters buddy instead of disciplining them (in a loving way of course). These parents usually end up with a whiny, spoiled, miserable child. Do they not realize that young children not only need discipline, they want it. It provides routine and structure, it's very comforting to them. What do you think?

No Cailou, gotcha

I'll tell you why Lindsey, it's because they don't see the connection. I've seen it first hand. People go and criticise a mothers parenting technique because they feel she is being mean to her kids; and then can't understand why their own kids are so rotten.

You're one of the rare ones Ducky

Answer 1

I agree with you 100%! I think the problem with many parents these days is that they want their children to "like" them. So they get the child everything the child wants, give in to every need, afraid to say “No” because their child may throw a tantrum or feel disappointed, don't set limits, coddle coddle coddle, and therefore their children never learn to respect them. Then since the children do not respect their parents, the parents have no control of them and the child feels they do not have a "safety net" (strong parents who can set and stick by a limit provide a safety net). Children scream for limits! Plus they never allow their children to fail and when the children grow they cannot handle failure because they have never experienced it. It's very sad!

Answer 2

No one is going to give you an honest answer. BUT--here is my dead honest answer. I discipline my child. In my eyes my job is to make my son an independent loving person. We have a schedule. It's not rigorous--like coloring at 12 and toe sucking at 3. We like doing things like eating, bathing, napping, and sleeping at a certain time everyday. Not only do I feel he finds comfort in it but I find comfort in it as well. I know when he's going to be asleep so I can get my stuff done. He knows when he's going to eat so he doesn't throw a fit. It's funny I've gotten criticized on my parenting techniques by the same people who have fussy and rude children. I don't know why?

Answer 3

I think you're completely right.

I work as a counsellor at a summer camp and it can be really ridiculous. Kids think that its all about them and have no concept of how their actions affect other people. One of my kids actually told me tried to negotiate good if I forget about his punishment and let him go swimming. They think that everyone should serve them and that they should always get what they want.

The parents are no better. They act as though their children can do no wrong or even worse they don't get involved at all. Parents need to wake up and start acting like adults and not like their children are their equals.

There's no such thing as bad children, only bad parents.

Answer 4

as a mommy of 2 that works 10 hrs 5-6 a wk. a day, when i get home i am tied and i sometimes snap on my kids and i feel bad for that and i try to make up but letting them get their way. but at the same time i know when they push the limits and i do correct them with the old fashion *** wooping.
but i really feel in SOME cases it's not all the parents fault alot there are alot more single parents with 2 dead end jobs and they are never home allways at work and can't correct them b/c they dont know whats going on b/c they are at work..
and feels being their friend is making up for lost time.....

Answer 5

Today we live in a world where a lot people are either running to drugs, are depressed and/or running from themselves. Sadly, a majority of these people are parents. If they cannot cope with "life", lack structure in their own lives and lack self-discipline... How are they going to raise children to have structure or discipline? It's really sad! If something don't change soon... it's scary to think about it.

Answer 6

Some parents were raised that way and do not feel it is the best way to raise a child. They think if their parents had been friendlier with them their childhood would have been better (easier). So that is how they decide to raise their children. In the long run I do not think this will help them children are easier to raise when they know what the boundaries are.

Answer 7

Kids do need routine. All humans do, think about your life - I prefer it to have some elements of predictability. Church on Sundays, visit great grandparents on Saturdays, bath, book,bed by 830. etc. Makes a big difference.

Don't let your kids watch Cailou, that whiney bugger.

Answer 8

I so agree. My mother has a daycare and its scary to see these children kicking, biting and screaming at their parents. The parents stand their and do squat. I dont get it. I see the difference with kids that are corrected and not corrected. The corrected ones are the ones I'd care for , for free. The undisciplined ones..wellllll you could pay me 5 times as much and I'd run away saying "no thanks"

Answer 9

todays parents became parents at an early age i think its because of that that they act like a buddy to their kids hoping they listen to them and dont make the mistakes they did but they are really making it worse cuz they kids dont get no discipline and gonna think its alright to make bad moves as in having at an early age

Answer 10

because everybody else gets to raise your children , if i am in he store and my kid is throwing a fit and do nothing , i get the looks "do something with that kid" and if you reprimand or punish them they look at you like "OMG what are you doing to that poor kid" nowadays you cant win for losing. The result is a spoiled rotten half adult nobody wants in society , its really to sad