I have twins, a boy and girl, they are 2! They refuse to listen, despite what we do! Does it get any better?!!

Question

I have tried everything short of an excorcism and dowsing them with holy water/oil! Any suggestions?

My twins were hard headed long before they turned 2!

Answer 1

I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old who was like that, they still are at times, gets so on my nerves, but, be patient with them, they are still babies....... I think it is time for you to make 2 sperate time out chairs , apart from each other, where they can't touch and plasy with each other, it seems to work for my 2 boys and I started them around the age of 2.........If that doesn't work, I have taken a few parenting classes, and one of the teachers, said to take and hold my son on my lap when they wouldn't do what they were told, and just hold them there where they couldn't move, for 1 minute for each year they are , in your case it would be 2 minutes per child, this does work and it is not mean or abusive, I don't spank my kids........ If you try the time out chair it is the same 1 minute for every year they are.. again 2 minutes per child.. I wish you the best of luck... feel free to contact me and tell me if these methods work for you twins.

Answer 2

The terrible two are, well terrible. The good part is that if you can make it through this phase you can pretty much do anything. The threes are generally better than the twos. Just beware of stubbornness, tantrums and the potty training wars. Best of luck, and remember it only lasts for so long and in a few years you'll look back at these moments with a good sense of humor and a longing to have your little ones be that little again.

Answer 3

I only have one two year old but she is very....hyperactive, misbehaved, and downright snotty sometimes. She is spoiled by the rest of the family and she knows it. We do steps. EVERYTHING we do we break down into step one, step two, and step three. Whether the step is obvious or not that is how we do it and it works very well with her. We also do not give her sugar or allow her to watch a lot of tv. Getting them outside in the sunlight for a few hours a day helps as well. When she misbehaves we look her in the eye and make her look at us and this helps somewhat. And, don't let them know that they are getting to you even if it is really hard. My daughter loves to egg me on but if I act like I don't care about her little drama shows she tends to stop because she is not getting attention. Don't know how this will work on 2 but its worth a shot.

Answer 4

That's why they call it the terrible twos. They are at the age of development when they realize they are separate from you and are determined to make some decisions on their own. It's frustrating, and is double trouble for you, but eventually they get back to being more manageable, by age 3 to 4. Hang in there. You may want to do some searches online for "dealing with two year olds". Theres gobs of good info that will help you!!

Answer 5

Nope it does not get better just how you learn to react or lack of when they do it. They get no reaction doesnt mean you dont love them just that bad behavior is not recognized or commented on.
If you allow them to control your reaction they learn they have the upper hand and later in life they get more demanding and harder to
break those bad habits of not listening. Try alowing them to have a bad monor incident happen to them like telling them not todo something you know could cause a bad bump then let them go ahead a let them feel the owweee. they will learn to listen when told. A hard lession but effective. Like abandoning a whining clinging brat. Once they experieince loss of comfort
in sight of safety net parents the fear of ut oh ..stops the tantrums.

Answer 6

I only have one, and his main issue at 30 months old is not listening. It's gotten a little better in some ways since he's older and understands more, but in other ways it's worse. Time outs, taking toys away, limiting tv time and giving them rewards for when they do listen are all things you could try if you haven't already.

Answer 7

You've got to get in there and think like a two-year old to fake them out! Have fun with it--they'll never be this cute again!

Just think of it--if you can be laid back and savvy now, as if you know the secret and they don't--you'll be MUCH better prepared for their teen years, which is the NEXT time they'll try to drive you nuts!

Answer 8

yeah it gets better! but not usually before it gets worse and sometimes it can last well into the three years. Just remember to stay consistent and follow through. this has been the biggest help for us. Our son is learning that if we say it it will happen. Good Luck

Answer 9

try using timeout. I know they won't stay there, but stand by them and tell them that you can't get out for 2 minutes. every time they get out keep putting them back. make sure you let them know why they are there and the only way they can get out if they are good. IF they do it again put them back. It worked for my daughter and eventually she stayed there till i said she could get out. takes time. Even though they are two doesn't mean they have to run wild.

Answer 10

yes it does get better but i still don't know when. my child is four and we are better but not best.... they have said all they could about this phase and actually called it the terrible twos.. they missed telling about the terrible threes, fours, fives ..... twenties... etc. it gets better, every phase has its own challenges. later, they will listen to what you will say alright but that does not mean that they do it.. have fun, they are the joy of life.. wish you all the best