i have a gf and whn she gets a lil drunk she just wants to start an argument and will pick on anything to shout me down, what can i do, i am really thinking of leaving and getting my own flat but if i answer back it gets worse i am not spineless and so thats my instand reaction, but soemtimes its just best to just say nothing and ignore it i feel i am walking on eggshells when she is like this i have told her she drinks too much but her job is well stressful and i have been there so i understand but her emotionss are so up and down its getting me down, how wud u guys approach this??thanks 4 your input
2006-10-01 08:27:00 · 17 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe me....you need your own place...i had the same problem...my ex was like that....especially when he was drunk...he was never violent, but he could be nasty when fuelled with booze....eventually i asked him to move out, and we did continue our relationship...it was much better living apart, if you have no place to go when she's tanked it will be worse on you, at least if you had your own place, you could just get up...walk out, and go home...so if i were you, get looking for a place...tell her your getting a flat, but still want to be with her...just because her job is stressful, does not give her the rights to have a pop at you when she's been on the pop, that's no excuse at all
2006-10-01 08:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making exuses for her being verbally abusive towards you and that ain't right. There is no exuse for abuse of any kind to either sex. Is she apologetic when she's sober and promises not to be like that again? Who's to say this won't progress to physical violence? You need to be strong and leave! She needs to get help with her problems because she shouldn't be with anyone right now, and you are worth more than that you deserve a woman that will treat you right. Good Luck and be strong.
2006-10-01 15:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask this question these people are just random peple that dont know you or your situation ask some one close that you can trust, personally i'd tell her that you hate the person she is when she drinks and tell her that if she wants to be with you she needs to sort it out she sounds like she's got serious issues do you deserve a life like the one you have now i think not so if you aint going to try change it stop complaining only you can change it.hope you sort it all out
2006-10-01 17:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by lilmissk19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem, its hers. She needs to deal w/ whatever is bothering her, not just get drunk anytime something doesn't go her way. She's taking you along for the drunken ride. If I were you I'd suggest she get the help she needs and find you when she lets go of some of her demons. You don't need to be in such an emotionally draining relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-01 15:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out if it's getting you down. She sounds like she knows about this and hasn't made an effort to cut down on drinking or stop for the sake of your relationship. I'd advise you to ditch her as it's affecting your life and that ain't fair.
2006-10-01 16:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she is calm and sober and explain how much it upsets you. If she is not prepared to try and change her behaviour then leave her and find someone who will not give you such a hard time. It's not worth the stress.
2006-10-01 15:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still be there for her but dont live with her, be her friend not her gf. yes you are spineless, a codependent. you dont deserve that even though you understand her position. take her to an AA meeting.
2006-10-01 15:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a gf like that get rid of her, u don't need 2 deal with some1 like that their no good 4 u nad u sound really nice.
2006-10-01 15:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need to go to counselling. If you really love her help her by taking her to yoga or meditation classes. If not just tell her straight that you are leaving.
2006-10-01 16:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by shiningstar2808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly talk to her about how you feel and try and work it out. If you talk and she persists leave her its too much for one person
2006-10-01 15:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋