im a 21yr old male 21 this year and ive only had 1 gf ever that was set up by my mum.im a quiet person and shy when it comes to girls and i go red and panic it annoys my so much but i hardly talk and i prefere 50s rock n roll music and stuff like that plus im a romantic which hardly any girls want these days help?
2006-10-01 08:21:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 22 this year sorry
2006-10-01 08:47:33 · update #1
Everyones different that's what makes you unique. So if you think that there aint a girl for you that's complete b@#$$%*ks. You just got to be your self and smile a lot always helps. Have a more postive outlook. We all get knock backs or a date never meterialises (that's there loss in my book). So don't worry if it aint happin it will! Your only boring because you think you are.
2006-10-01 08:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girls love romantic guys, girls are turned of by shy guys because it shows a sign of weakness and low self-esteem. Girls are into confident guys that know what they want, that's a big turn on. So instead of being quiet, when you see a girl you like just simply say hi and see where the conversation goes. Theres some hott chicks i know that are into 50's rock and roll. Just start with say hi first.
2006-10-01 08:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mysique_X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either gain some courage and speak up to a lady you like. Or change who you are completely. I know you don't want to do that so like all the things you like but learn about things that young people like in the mainstream these days. Even if it's watching the Daily Show w/ Jon Stewart. For you can have some things to talk about with the ladies. The most important things is to be confident and not be afraid of rejection. Be yourself and don't change for no one, just get a little heart and think highly of yourself. Just say hi! I hope this works and good luck.
2006-10-01 08:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're boring. You sound more shy than that to me. I'm sure you're into some great things, its just you dont' know how to share those experiences with girls. What kind of stuff are you into besides 50s rock music? Do you have any hobbies? Are you in school? What do you do for fun? Try talking to girls that you already know or ones that you see every day. Smile at girls. And dont' forget to breathe.
2006-10-01 08:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a smiple solution to this problem. Go out of the house, get lashed, chat to a lady, then chat to another one etc - practice makes perfect. It doesn't have to lead to sex (well not unless your very lucky) you just need to get over the intial shyness bit and I am sorry for all you teetotallers drink does work. You can romance them on the date but you need to talk to them to get their number first! As for your intrests I don't think that really an issue in you not talking to ladies - it sees more of an excuse. By the way it ain't that strange being into 50's music!
2006-10-01 08:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Andy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone and not having a gf don't make you boring... 50's music is great and if people are so shallow that they don't see the real you are they really worth worrying about... Chin up mate, your time will come... And all girls like the romantic type...
2006-10-01 08:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by bty53404242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice bloke, just a bit shy and different from the norm. These are all good things. As you get more experience of life your self-confidence will improve, but until then you can do things like practising conversations in the mirror (sounds sad, but I know lots of people do it!) or keeping up to date on current affairs so you always have something to comment on if you need to make small talk (for example, 'what do you think of Sharon Osbourne's new haircut', or 'wasn't that earthquake terrible'.
Also, it sounds like psycho-babble, but if you keep imagining yourself to be confident then you will fool your mind into thinking that you are.
As far as girls are concerned, keep trying to talk to them, but don't concentrate on chatting them up. Just talk to then like you would to your mates. You'll soon be able to relax around them and begin to work your charm.
Remember that the things you are self-concious about are the things that make you unique, and will be the things that will one day make some lucky girl think that you're the One.
2006-10-01 08:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're shy, the best thing to do is ask the other person question after question, and seem really interested in what she/he says. No-one can resist a good listener, so practice being a good listener. If you become really interested in what the person tells you, you will forget all about your shyness and ask more questions.
Remember, act as if you are conducting an intimate interview, give the girl all your attention, nod understandingly and really LISTEN.
This is my method and it NEVER fails!
Good Luck!
Simon 2
2006-10-01 08:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're just fine. You're just a late bloomer. I know plenty of guys who have a hard time talking to girls. Some stutter, turn red and get sweaty. You just gotta find a girl that likes that kind of stuff. you could put an ad up on the internet and give your e-mail address. but that's going a little far.
2006-10-01 08:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by supergirl67 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls dont' like guys like you, but you don't want those. Those arent' worth your standards! Find one that has similarities to you, maybe the shy girl you see might be her, just jump out of your comfort shell, one step at a time, you'll find the girl you want.
and you're not boring.
2006-10-01 08:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by mysteriousmystery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋