My and my ex brokeup in May of this year it's been rough to move on but i have done that with alot of help and thinking i still think of him or cry occassionally but it helps me and i still think i love him even though i don't desire him as much and we fight still about alot of things but because i told him i hate him when i was mad at him i know it's wrong but i don't deal with my anger well and it always comes out and i regret it as soon as it's out and i feel horrible and have told him how sorry i was and he emailed me last night saying how much he hates me also but he said he was getting me back and made a joke out of it and it has hurt me deeply and now i don't think i can ever feel the way i've been feeling because we agreed to start over and i don't want to anymore because of it i don't think we will keep hurting each others over and over and well i need some opinions on what to do it would really help??
2006-10-01 08:01:38 · 6 answers · asked by flyinghigh006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is not the one for you then perhaps you need to sever all contact with him for awhile. It's easier to just rip the band-aid off, rather than trying to pull it inch by inch, and also a lot less painful.
Give it time and maybe one day you can run into him somewhere and have a normal conversation with no fighting and hurting each other.
2006-10-01 08:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Starwyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried pulling a band aid off real slow? It hurts really bad when you do that because it plucks out each little hair one at a time right? What I am getting at here is pretty much the same thing. Think of your guy as the band aid and you are pulling away really slowly. If you make one quick break up and quit emailing and talking to the guy then you will be able to get over him faster and move on with your life. If you live in such a small town that you risk seeing him everyday, just avoid places that you know he will be at for awhile and if its possible, I might even consider moving to someplace new and starting my life over.
2006-10-01 08:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's a basic failure of communication.
your husband has no real understanding of your feelings.
I think that you are a tender person most of the time, except when angry.
he hasn't learned to see that part of you.
he is still trying to have a relationship with you on his terms, which rather sadly includes keeping a score and making revenge.
in return, you must learn that you cannot use anger to get your own way in everything.
sometimes planning ahead and making simple rules in a relationship will make things smoother.
from what you wrote I am not convinced your husband seriously wants to get back together with you at this time.
2006-10-01 09:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As my History teacher told me in HS. If we do not learn from history we are doomed to repeat it. Let him go. Love and Hate cannot coexist.
2006-10-01 08:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by bigsatdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and meet new people . He is not the only guy out there worth loving .
2006-10-01 08:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read what you wrote. what's the matter with you?
2006-10-01 08:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋