I have so many problems getting my 10yr old daughter to sit down when we get home and do her homework. She argues and procrastinates so much. She is an above average student and does well in school. It's when we get home that she loses focus and doesn't want to do homework and wants to argue and fight. Please help!!!
2006-10-01 08:01:18 · 13 answers · asked by MellyK1234 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She needs a break to unwind after doing such a good job during the school day. Talk to her and decide together when the best time for her to do homework should be. Give her some choices.
Sit down at the table and do yoru own homework too. Pay bills, read a book etc. That way it is family time together. Plan something fun to do together after the homework is done.........a reward for doing a good job.
2006-10-01 08:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather than have her do her homework the minute she gets home give her some time to unwind. I have my kids take a break when they get home for about a half an hour or so. Kids need the chance to unwind after school just like adults do after work.
Give her a set time. If she gets home at 3:30, let her know that she can take a break or have a snack until 4:15 and by 4:309 she must be doing her homework.
Make sure she has a nice comfortable quite place to do her work. My kids are 13 and 14 and they still come home, get a snack, change clothes, talk to me about their day, etc. Then they knuckle down and start their homework. If they have a lot (which they do now that they are older) they take a break after a while as well.
2006-10-01 08:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Amy Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that even now at 26 and in college I need a break after a long day at school. Apparently, I usually do the same as most grade school children, I come home, change, get a snack, watch TV or play with the dog then its back to the books. Nobody wants to spend all day at work and the come home and do the same thing, I'm sure the same applies to a child. The two of you could compromise on a time and then everyone wins.
2006-10-01 11:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mandi M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have the same problem with my daughter and I finally told her is she would not do her homework at home she would take an incomplete I had to let her fall a couple of times but she made that choice and now her grades are going up to B's good luck
2006-10-01 08:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be ADD, nobody really looks at kids who get good grades as having ADD, but its fairly common.
I must admit that up to 6th grade I never once did any homework. Always had straight A's so never thought I needed it. 6th grade math however was a different story. My first report card was an "F" in Math. I went to Mr. Kincaid with my tests showing him every single one was an A, 100% no less. He said, "I don't care, if you don't hand in your homework you will not pass my class".
I started doing my homework, which was good since classes eventually got tougher and I really needed that practice. Even though at the time I thought it was dumb and boring, it was certainly not worth repeating the 6th grade over.
2006-10-01 10:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to become a routine. Give her an hour or so when she gets in, we all need a break, or decide that after dinner is a good time. Make her stick to it, even if she just sits and stares at the wall. Don't allow extra time, as that will become and excuse for not going to bed, and don't provide a cover story if the work is not done.
2006-10-01 09:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to deal with this last year with my daughter, I had a little talk with her and told her that if she didn't take time to do her work that her twin sisters would be in the same grade as she was. I didn't have too many problems after that.
2006-10-01 09:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lacole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take all of her privileges away until she does her homework...no TV, computer, and no friends to visit etc...This is what I have to do with my grandkids....My 10yr old granddaughter does her's okay...she wouldn't have it any other way because she loves being on the "Honor roll"....My 8 yr old grandson is the one I have the problem with because he can't stay focused....His parents and I make him sit until he gets done....Good luck
2006-10-01 08:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe don't make her do the homework right away...and let her "make her own decisions." When i was ten (3 years ago) that was hUGE!!! I found that i focussed better after dinner anyway, so i "wound down" right after school by playing on the Internet, then had dinner, then did homework. it worked great. good luck.
2006-10-01 08:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way and i wish my mom would have pushed me harder but i did the same thing she did. I just made my first C. Tell her if she does not do her homework then she can go to school really really early and do it dont push to hard
2006-10-01 12:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋