I have been with my girlfriend for over a year. Recently, there have been many rifts between us. I am a very devout Christian soul and very honest with her. I told her about my past and the times that I have cheated on her. She and Jesus have both forgiven me. For the last two weeks now I have been seeing this very honest Christian girl I met at a church function. It's been great. Sex with her feels very holy and clean.
Here's the dilemma, this girl I met told me that my girlfriend has a very dirty past. My girlfriend was not a virgin when she met me. I was not her first. She lied to me!
Now when I see my girlfriend all I could think about is what an unreligious a*s wh o re she is. Jesus fried on the cross because of liar like her. Should I dump her? Should I confront her and tell her how hurt I am? What should I do? Jesus help ME!
2006-10-01 07:37:55 · 21 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Pllease don't doubt my beliefs. Read my other questions and see that Christ is in my heart.
2006-10-01 07:39:16 · update #1
You don't deserve your girlfriend. Dump her so she can find somebody she won't feel like she has to lie to.
2006-10-01 07:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by fauxjanis 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What! you have cheated on this girl more than once after you have been given a second chance at the relationship!!! and she has been faithful to you during the entire relationship!!!!
Now you have to know that there are a lot of flaws in your thinking. first the sex you had with that "nice girl" was not clean or pure because she slept with a man that was in a relationship, and neither of you were married to each other. She probably wanted you to dump your girlfriend so she made up whatever story she could think of to make you mad at your current girlfriend.
Which leads me to your next flaw, why are you having sex with your girlfriend before you are married? It's not ok.
When you fall into sin life gets very complicated and what you have to do is confess your sins and pull yourself out of all of it.
And don't call your girlfriend a w ho re for a standard you won't hold yourself to.
If you are actually a Christian than you are my brother and I am your sister. You have to start to abstain from fleshly pleasures and focus on God. so if you want my opinion. Then yes you should dump your girlfriend and be single for a few years tell her that your beginning to lose sight of God and you need to be alone.
-In Christ
Victoria
2006-10-01 08:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to do this but, after reading the facts I must say that you should look in the mirror yourself. You are living in a life of sin with what I can see. Premarital sex is totally against God's will. So please, before you go to bed tonight, look at yourself in the mirror of God's Law (the 10 Commandments), and think of all the times that you've lied, stolen, lusted, blasphemed God's name. Then look to the cross and the great sacrifice that God made so that you might be forgiven. If your living in a lifestyle or pattern of sin, then you have no guarantee that your even saved. After doing that, then we can address this whole girlfriend issue.
2006-10-01 07:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jason M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!! Wait just a minute. You've been having sex with a girl from church and it feels very holy??????? I believe it's called fornication, isn't it? Your dilemma is you are talking the talk but you're not walking the walk. You are another example of why Christians get such a bad rap. You're being a hypocrite. So you think your girlfriend is bad but you're okay? You're doing the same thing she did. Why should you feel hurt? What would you say if you confronted her...that you're doing what she did but it's okay for you and awful for her??? You are so full of c*r*a*p your eyes must be brown.
2006-10-01 07:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets get the fact that you hurt her also out in the open. If she forgave you first then why would you deny her that also? If you feel like you can trust another girl who slept with you knowing about your girlfriend then go ahead. I think you relationship is past the healthy point. Talk to her tell her there has been a lot of lies between you and it would be best not to be together.
2006-10-01 07:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by geeeezzzzeeee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... sweetheart...
You're cheating on her. And then getting mad because you weren't her first.
The whole "I thought Christians didn't believe in sex before marriage" thing aside, you're being a major hypocrite by having sex with other girls, then getting mad because she used to have sex with someone other than you. You didn't write anything about her cheating on you, so I'm assuming that whoever she lost her virginity to is in the past, as he should be.
So no, I don't think you should dump her. I think she should dump you, for cheating on her multiple times, and for being a jealous asshat.
2006-10-01 07:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Girl Wonder 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like both of u lie.
two wrongs never make a right!!!
how many times have u cheated!!! ??
you need to break up with her because if u really loved her, u wouldnt keep cheating.
anyone can make a mistake. we are human!
but you are not married, its wrong anyway!!
you must be young. lots of lust.
seems you need to pray, draw closer to god and even stop having sex for a while.
long lasting relationships are built on friendship, honesty, loyalty.
not sex!!
eventually sex gets old. then what??
but stop seeing the first girl. you dont really love her. do you?
maybe you are used to having her around.
as for if u were her first, well maybe, may be not.
but you cant believe rumours. not always.
its not even about her!! its you who need to live right and true. be a real man. not a child.
2006-10-01 07:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by grasshopper 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 'beliefs' as you call them leave much to be desired. What do you think Jesus would say about all of this? Fried on a cross bc of HER? LOL
Take a good look at youself, if you dare! Liar!
2006-10-01 07:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by lucydesi1940 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's holding you hostage through using emotional blackmail. i have been through that and that i have not began to work out any relationship like that emerge for the added perfect. no longer saying it may't ensue, in simple terms that i have not considered it for myself or maybe heard of it. Who knows what makes her that way. it might want to correctly be drugs, melancholy, lack of vanity, fool girlfriends, and so on. believe it or no longer, all 4 were the culprits in a unmarried female. (a similar can ensue in adult males) there is not any longer some thing you may do for her previous being supportive and understand-how. in some unspecified time sooner or later even with the actuality that you'll be able to ought to figure for your self once you've performed all you may do. do not dangle on hoping for her to strengthen up, you do not owe your self that type of misery. the finest challenge to me is her mendacity. If she's lied to you, it quite is the finest signal of disrespect. No excuses. If all and sundry loses my believe, there is not any position for them in my existence. So i'm no longer one to propose all and sundry to dangle on in elementary of that revelation. you have to be agency with your "in case you do not favor to be with me, leave." ultimatum. Make her pick! that's now or not in any respect. Crap or get off the pot. yet do not enable her again. You gotta upward push up for your self. the in elementary words way she will disrespect you is in case you enable her to. decrease the damned anchor chain and flow on to extra perfect issues. She's bypass over misery, enable her be some different person's concern.
2016-12-04 02:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lied to her too, and worse. If she forgave you, why can't you forgive her?
BTW - Judge not, lest ye be judged
(seriously, I can't tell if you're kidding or not! If you are, its funny but a little too real.)
Man...the more I read this, the more stupid I feel for answering it..
2006-10-01 07:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by DougDoug_ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋