I am 17. I know about having safe sex, and that I should have waited until marrige, and all that other good stuff etc. But is it strange that after I have sex with my boyfriend I feel guilty about it...but then I keep wanting to have sex?
2006-10-01 07:36:57 · 26 answers · asked by Alexis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not strange at all - it's part of being human, to experience all kinds of emotions about it. It's a huge life change. The ambivalence you feel - guilt vs desire - is one you may want to look more closely at. Perhaps you might want to take a sheet of paper, and make 2 columns -- one for guilt, one for desire. Then you jot down your reasons. Having something in front of you to refer to can help you decide things more clearly, rather than juggling all those feelings inside. As you review the list, wonder to yourself -- are you doing this because you want to, (because you love him) or because you feel you have to (to keep your boyfriend, because others expect it, etc.) Then you can know how you really feel, and bravely decide the direction you'd like to go next. I wish you well -- good luck!
2006-10-01 07:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not strange. Unfortunately that's a side effect of growing up in the weird culture that we exist in today. There is so much negative campaigning against sex in general that by the time young people do experience sex they feel as guilty as a catholic nun. And the reason that you want to keep having it?....it's great!
2006-10-01 14:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. For some it's normal because of how they were raised. Wanting sex is normal too.
If you are feeling guilty it could simply be that you are reacting subconsciously to the morals your parents instilled in you or your religious beliefs. If it becomes a problem, try to figure out why you feel that way or choose not to have sex until you are sure you are ready to handle those feelings of guilt.
2006-10-01 14:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a wonderful feeling especially when you are actually doing it. But after it is over you wish you would have waited. Don't feel that way, sex is an important part of life. As long as you are safe and with someone who is good to you enjoy it!
2006-10-01 14:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more psychological than anything. You may have been told all your life to wait until you're married to have sex. It may even be harder for you if you're really religious. But I believe that it is just your inner self telling you that you have just went against what you previously believed and that you should be sorry about it. Either that or you may not be as happy with your bf as you think. Ask for a little bit of space while you sort out your feelings. If he doesn't think you need to, he is just in it for the sex and your inner self was right about him.
2006-10-01 14:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by defrost1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about. I felt exactly the same way. Literally. My family was very into the whole dont have sex until you are married thing. But w/e. As long as you are having safe sex you might as well enjoy it. Also dont depend just on condoms. If you can try to get your hands on some birth control pills
2006-10-01 15:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by *:.Ojos Verdes.:* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only "you" can really answer that question. A long time ago, I was in that exact situation, and didn't know how to handle these feelings. So I decided to not have sex untill I knew what those feelings were about. It worked out fine for me, but I "still" can't tell "you" what to do. Either way, good luck.
2006-10-01 14:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not strange at all. Most young people have a certain amount of guilt when it comes to sex. Just continue to practice safe sex and don't do anything you are uncomfortable with.
2006-10-01 14:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not strange , you are just a sexual person , neither a reason to feel good or bad , perhaps you are just unfulfilled , because you didnt reach orgasm and you want to keep at it until you do , perhaps you just really like it , you would be the best one to answer that one ... as for the guilt , I would assume that that is due to family or religious concerns , and not being honest about what you are up to .
2006-10-01 14:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by rifraffxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not weird, in fact I think you are a perfectly normal, healthy young lady who happens to be 17 years old. Sex is something to discover in all it's wonder at your age. It probably feels a bit naughty now but that will soon change, believe me!! ENJOY WITH CARE!!
Blessed Be
2006-10-01 14:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by bear4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋