Serious question!
When walking my son home from nursery the other week he needed a wee, he did this by standing by a tree, his pants (& boxers) down + went.
My friend said that this is wrong & he will get laughed at at school if he uses the urinal like this?
What should I teach him (how should he go outside & in school?)
Please help us!
Thanks Lol xxx.
2006-10-01 07:36:50 · 23 answers · asked by Lauren 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh poor little lad!
At this age its more important he gets everything off and doesn't pee himself than how he does it!
Tell your friend if he's still doing it when he's 18 you'll worry but for now let the poor little 'un relieve himself any way he sees fit!
2006-10-01 07:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is being ridiculous....He is a child and he will learn by example. When I potty trained my boys I sent them to loo every time their dad went up. They saw they learned. If your son has no father figure at home, he will copy the kids at nursery eventually. Children of all ages do things differently. He will find a way that he is comfortable with. And anyway nursery school children do not make fun of each other, they are to young to understand social nuances, they just want to have fun. Stop worrying, and tell your friend to get a life!!
2006-10-01 17:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of 3 boys then pulling everything down is perfectly acceptable! I think your son would rather have dry clothes than wet ones! If he is still at nursery then you have plenty time to train him how to 'poke it out'!! My 1st only learnt the art just before going to school. I was more concerned about who was going to wipe his botty for his no2s since this was a far bigger job to be done!
Anyway - most school trousers have elasticated waists for the younger ones, so it's inevitable that the trousers will have to be pulled down to a certain extent. They can be pulled down just enough without causing any problems.
I have to say tho - I think I'd be more inclined to make sure he goes to the toilet before leaving nursery and learns to hold in more so he doesn't have to wee at a tree!
2006-10-01 17:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is nearly 4, and he wears pants, not boxers, so he has to pull everything down too. I always taught him to stand up, because I think a boy sitting down, looks more weird than a boy standing up with everything down! I won't be buying boxers for my son unless I know he's 100% going to get it in the toilet and not on his clothes, cos surely people are more likely to make fun of a wet kid!?
I think your friend is a bit of a cow for making fun of something so sensitive. Who know's, by the time he starts school he may have naturally progressed to the "right" way of doing it...give him time, and tell her to shut her mouth next time!
2006-10-01 17:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all have to start somewhere.
If by "wrong" your friend means he should be weeing through the gap in his boxers, I can only imagine that she doesn't have a son (or not one that is out of nappies/diapers yet) or that her son is somewhat well endowed!
Just picture a little lad with his penis poking out through that little gap - there's a jolly good chance that plenty of the urine will end up on his underpants due to the close proximity of said penis to said underpants.
Far better that he de-robes than ends up with urine all over himself.
My son is 7 years and still pulls his trousers and underpants down to wee as do all other little friends that he knows (not that I've been spying, I just asked him!!)
I'm sure it's entirely normal - please don't upset yourself or your little boy whilst his at such an influencial ages. Just let him wee!!
Best wishes
2006-10-01 14:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by SL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father is present and active in his life, let him show his son how he does it. My son was taught mainly by me, and he did the same thing, with his pants and boxers down around his ankles. I taught him this because I didn't want him to pee on his clothes. You can tell him not to show his "hiney" to everyone while he's peeing, just pull the front of his pants and boxers down enough to let his "winkie" do it's job. My husband showed our son once and he's done it the "right" (if there is a such way) way ever since.
2006-10-01 14:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he will not get laughed at because he will be in a stall and there are a lot of little boys that go to the bathroom sitting down until t here lol aim gets better and if he is pulling is pants all the way down then so will most of the other little boys his age because they are the same age so i woulndn't think too much about that if i was you
2006-10-01 14:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by foxxylesley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in a Nursery for 3 to 5 year olds and we ask them if they want to stand up or sit down. Its personal preference. They start to get bashful at around school age and they will decide for themselves that they dont want all of their bum showing! They all do it differently. Its not wrong its just his way....Little boys find it hard to just 'poke it out' over the top. Tell your friend to keep her opinions to herself.
2006-10-01 15:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is outside or at home tell him its okay for him to put his pants and undies all the way down but when he is at school he has to learn to pee with his pant down just a bit so he can pee not all the way down
2006-10-01 21:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually, he'll have to learn to whip it out. He will need a fly in his trousers (sorry pants) of course.
I always have to read those twice. Why is he wearing pants AND boxers??? Oh yes, American.
2006-10-01 14:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋