My fiance is thinking about joining the Marines. If he decides to join, I would be incredibly proud of him and would stand by him. For those of you who have experience with this, is there any advice you can give me? Is it very difficult to be married to a Marine? What about when we want to start a family?
2006-10-01 07:34:14 · 13 answers · asked by lollypoppanda2004 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It is an experience like no other. I was in the Air Force. If you can deal with the unknown and a little lack of control over your life you should be OK.. Just understand that there may be times where he can't be there.
2006-10-01 07:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by a4140145 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Marine wife, and it hasn't been easy. He's been to Iraq twice and now he's deployed once again elsewhere. Even when they are here they have AT, and training here and there. You will be alone a lot of the time, but each time they go you get stronger and it gets easier. You will have the constant worry, but the good thing is that thanks to the internet we have ways to keep in constant communication. When he's deployed keep yourself busy as much as possible. There are many support groups that you could look into. I suggest not to try starting a family right away because if he's just going to join it may be possible he will be moving around a lot. I would wait until your marriage is stable and you can handle the possibility of being on your own with a child if he's away. He's doing a great thing and I'm sure he will be very proud to have a good woman by his side supporting him all the way. I know that I'm very proud of my husband, and all the men and women out there fighting to keep us safe. Good luck and God bless.....
2006-10-02 02:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by tofiesty4u2handle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being an AF wife, deployments was hard on me but I had family and friends to help me thru it. It really isn't easy being a military spouse as you will be both father and mother to your kids when he is deployed. Yes you'll spend many lonely nights a lone, many days where you will be worrying over his safety. However, you'll get to live in places that you would never have dreamed off (we've lived in Texas, Washington DC and are now in Hawaii). You'll meet and make Friends with fellow military wives who will be your comfort and support group. Good luck to you both and if he decide to enlist he will be joining a very selective group of brave men.
2006-10-01 17:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mylene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ready to be apart from each other a lot of the time. Duty calls means he goes. Plus, family is fine just don't expect to live in one place very long, not always. I was a military brat, and I really didn't care for having to move so much and change schools. I never knew how much it affected me, till later. I ended up dating a Navy guy, the possibilties of marriage were there....I just didn't want that type of lifestyle again. So, we went our seperate ways. I never regreted that decision either. Military families, are made and that doesn't mean they can't be happy, but who says they are happy.
2006-10-01 14:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a proud army wife i will tell you it takes a strong woman to be a military wife, but its well worth it.. there will be many long lonely nights, and a lot of circumstances you wont have any say in, such as place of address, and whatnot, however you will be taken care of, the benefits are amazing, he will become your hero, and lets face it every womens gotta love a man in uniform!!!! As for having a family, well we have a family, and it works just fine, the military takes care of the families, and when in the case something will go wrong in your family, you will receive everything you need! And plenty of programs are available for kids! Definatly more pros then cons! best wishes!!!!!
2006-10-01 17:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by armywifeAshley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a nvay wife. it takes a special kind of woman t o be a military gf or wife. its hard you are alone alot.you have to move away from family to a place where youprobably wont know anyone.its worth it to me. having children its up to you but the military insurance covers everything when pregnant and deliverying. good luck. its is hard and just so you know the marines deploy alot and for long times for a year or more at a time good luck with what ever you guys choose
2006-10-01 15:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing a most wonderful thing to stand by your man!!!
BRAVO and outstanding!!!
There are a number of organized support groups for military spouses, you should look for them on the web, so a yahoo search is in order.
Second, definately work on your relationship the entire time, aggressively improve your communications, become an active listener, work to support his needs and requirements, and be so giving and loving that he will naturally support you and yours.
Avoid the tendancy that many military wives have of being negative. Seek to be positive in what you say, what you do and carefully ration your time with those who are negative---this is good as a life issue, but definately applicable to associations with military wives, as many of them tend to be negative and spiteful. However, you'll find a GREAT many more who are sweet, positive, encouraging, helpful and willingly help out new people just like yourself....... hopefully you'll become one of them yourself and share the wealth.
The military has a GREAT many resources and medical benefits available to your Marine as well as yourself as his spouse. Actively involve yourself in learning, work to make things easier for him as he goes about getting his career on track. With your love, support and knowledgeable involvement..... he will then have the support he needs to go off and do really good things himeself.
I wish you well and believe this is the start of a most beautiful life for you. Good luck!
2006-10-01 14:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by megettingbetter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from seven years of experience. There will be alot of lonely night...he'll miss birthdays, anniversary's sometimes even your childrens birth's. It is extremly hard, but someone has to do the job. My advice to you would be to wait on having a family....especially in the beginning of your marriage. If you rush into having kids you'll find yourself raising them by yourself. Everytime I hear someone knock my door I panic...I dread opening the door...I can't help but think that someone is at the door and they are going to give me bad new. Kiss him like it where the last time, hug him as hard as you can...Love him every second of the day....God Bless them ALL!
2006-10-01 16:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a special kind of person to be the wife/husband of a military man/woman... you'll spend countless nights alone, you'll constantly be worried, you'll move often, but the sense of pride and the people you'll meet will make it all worth while... if it's his dream...support him!
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2006-10-01 14:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will be alot of lonley, sleepless nights, late dinners, changes of address, worry, "old" friends. There will also be a sense of pride, lots of travel, happy moments, and new friends. It might not always be the most easy way of life or the most fullfilling but it all evens out. I wouldn't change my life for anything. I love my husband and am more pround of him than any one. Just be prepared to realize how strong you are when you have to be. Good Luck!
2006-10-01 16:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Stasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋