one of my best friends is having a problem. well she is going out with this younger guy. but this guy in our grade likes her a LOT! my bf and i think she should go out with the one our age. the thing is she likes the younger guy a LOT! but i think it would be better for her to go out with the older guy. what do we do??????
2006-10-01 07:32:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing, let her live her own life!!! don't interfere!
2006-10-01 07:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think to yourself first off.
if you were told by your best friends to like a different guy how would you feel
grade/age doesn't necessarly make a difference as long as there is that connection and as long as there is happiness
find out how happy she is, see how happy her bf is, if he seems iffy then talk to her about it, somewhat indirectly
you should try not to hurt her feelings as much as possible, because the last thing you want to do is loose her friendship
maybe try hooking the guy that likes her a lot up with a different girl? let him down easy, its really hard i know, i've been in the situation, but sometimes it for the best to leave things be and let fate decide on what really happens, if she was ment to date the guy in your grade, then in time things will happen, if not then she must be happy how she is
don't rush things, just sit back and try to relax and let her be happy
2006-10-01 14:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "what do we do"? Why are you involved? I would say that would be the first thing she should do, is although you seem to be her BFF, that she should follow her heart and not what her BFF or anyone else thinks. Age does not matter. The heart knows no age, face, etc... The heart knows what makes it happy, even if briefly. It's a lesson she and you should learn now, as when you become adults, you and you only will be responsible for your own happiness.
2006-10-01 14:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but you "did" ask after all. Let me ask you this. Turn it all around, if it were
"you" in this situation instead of your friend, and you had "real" feelings for the guy you're seeing, would you want your friend & her boyfriend to try to make things different for "you?" Picture this scenerio "honestly," and you should come up with a responsible answer. Good luck.
2006-10-01 14:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's your real best friend, you should let her make her own desicion. If you are that concerned, you should tell her how you feel. You should also talk to the guy in the same grade as you too.
Good Luck
2006-10-01 14:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by resse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. If she is happy thats what should matter. Just be happy for her. Dating somebody younger is not a bad thing as long as its not to big of a gap. Be happy for your friend. There are laws out there. So as long as they both at leagal ages be happy for her.
2006-10-01 14:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by MrsJClair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her make her own decisions. If she really likes the younger guy than stay out of it. You could hurt your friendship with her if you try to force her not to like someone.
2006-10-01 14:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by MissAteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy with this younger guy then leave her alone. You can't be match maker if she already has a someone she is happy with.
2006-10-01 14:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i have the same situation...i wouldnt dump my boyfriend for a guy i dont even like just because it might "work out" better. if she likes the guy shes with, let her keep him.
2006-10-01 14:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by deenab123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she likes the guy let her like love doesn't see the age
2006-10-01 14:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cool guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt do anything she needs to do this on her own i know you guys really want to help but this is her decisson.
-- Sorry Im not much help
Luv, Luna Fairy
2006-10-01 14:36:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋